"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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timmylivingalie

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Any guys ever in a relationship **** relationship with a submissive woman? There was a chic a couple years back wanted me to be her dom. I was just too vanilla and had no experience in this sort of thing. So I didnt get with her.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Scars

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You probably dodged a bullet.

From my experience, any woman who is "submissive", ESPECIALLY at the beginning of a relationship is generally borderline. She's trying hard to please you, and may in fact be mirroring exactly what you want/she thinks you want. These woman aren't being submissive, they are trying to suck you in. They probably came from a history of abusive relationships, or were abused by their parents. Expect to see/hear some fvcked up sh!t from this woman if you continue to pursue her.

-Scars
 

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Dear Timmy,
All said and done,they make a good Plate.
 

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You should define more accurately what she asked for, she asked you for being rough or that stuff with the black dress and the whip?

I once had an argue with my gf after she toke a decision without asking me, so I pushed her against her car and bended her (as a standing doggy style) just to show who was in charge and later she told me that behaviour turned her on and asked for some "rough" things sometime.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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timmylivingalie

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There was one that wanted the rough stuff whips and all that she was older and knew what she wanted. One younger girl I met wanted to be sub and I mentioned some of those things and she was freaked out by it. I wondered if the younger chick was testing me.
 

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timmylivingalie said:
There was one that wanted the rough stuff whips and all that she was older and knew what she wanted. One younger girl I met wanted to be sub and I mentioned some of those things and she was freaked out by it. I wondered if the younger chick was testing me.
Most (all?) women want to be dominated sexually. It's their natural role. That's why they almost universally like to have their hair pulled, be spanked, thrown around a bit, etc. Some take it further than others.

Some girls will say they like it rough, but they're thinking of nothing further than what I mentioned above. They're genuinely shocked by anything more. I suspect that was the case with the younger girl you encounted - she was a little more naive than she thought. I don't think she was testing you.
 

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Scars said:
From my experience, any woman who is "submissive", ESPECIALLY at the beginning of a relationship is generally borderline. She's trying hard to please you, and may in fact be mirroring exactly what you want/she thinks you want. These woman aren't being submissive, they are trying to suck you in. They probably came from a history of abusive relationships, or were abused by their parents. Expect to see/hear some fvcked up sh!t from this woman if you continue to pursue her.

-Scars
Your experience is limited at best.

Perhaps she truly wanted to experience her submissive slvt. Problem that most women come to is finding a man with the proper authority, patience and extreme perseverance to push her past, what she believes to be, her limits.

I've been Dom to a few women. Two I've completely allowed themselves to indulge in their absolute submissive state. One I trained to squirt by the scent of my cigar smoke.

They're not dogs. They're b!tches. They're b!tches in heat. It's taken me years to get to the point where I'm not content giving her what she wants, I give her what she secretly craves.

And they return that gratitude with utter obedience and attendance to my teachings.

There's a subtle dynamic between a Dom and Sub which teeters between rewarding her emotionally and spiritually with care and attentiveness, and rewarding her with pain and physical exhaustion.
 

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KarmaSutra said:
Your experience is limited at best.

Perhaps she truly wanted to experience her submissive slvt. Problem that most women come to is finding a man with the proper authority, patience and extreme perseverance to push her past, what she believes to be, her limits.

I've been Dom to a few women. Two I've completely allowed themselves to indulge in their absolute submissive state. One I trained to squirt by the scent of my cigar smoke.

They're not dogs. They're b!tches. They're b!tches in heat. It's taken me years to get to the point where I'm not content giving her what she wants, I give her what she secretly craves.

And they return that gratitude with utter obedience and attendance to my teachings.

There's a subtle dynamic between a Dom and Sub which teeters between rewarding her emotionally and spiritually with care and attentiveness, and rewarding her with pain and physical exhaustion.
You trained her to squirt with cigar smoke? Now I have my own methods, but this one has me curious. Seems like you should get out of your present occupation and become a magician in Vegas.

Pass along your technique brother Karma. I'll go get me some cee gars in the meantime just in case. :D
 

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Spot on

zekko said:
Most (all?) women want to be dominated sexually. It's their natural role. That's why they almost universally like to have their hair pulled, be spanked, thrown around a bit, etc. Some take it further than others.

Some girls will say they like it rough, but they're thinking of nothing further than what I mentioned above. They're genuinely shocked by anything more. I suspect that was the case with the younger girl you encounted - she was a little more naive than she thought. I don't think she was testing you.
YEAH!! It should be rough just like this guy: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=srf3a8NtJjM&feature=related

Make the hoe say "help me!!!" :rockon:
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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timmylivingalie

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Seems it would be have a lot of perks if you had her to where she would do anything to please you.
 
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