Submissive Single Mother

[Baibars]

So Im dating this 20yo single mother . Found her on a dating app. We texted a bit and had our first date after and we’re meeting until now.
She’s really into me and does anything to make me happy.
I met many women before and none of them treated me like she does. She accepts her role as a woman. If I’d tell her to drive 1 hour to meet me right now she would do it without hesitation.
She has red flags and green flags.
Red flags : she’s smoking weed, she has a kid, she acts really desperate
Green flags: she has a good job and she isn’t broke, she accepts that I would never be her kids father, submissive, respects me a lot

Im a single dad and i know that dating a single mom isn’t a good thing even as a single dad but I’m really enjoying this right now.
i mean one time i was angry at her and didn’t talk to Her. She drove to my town just to apologize and bring me lunch.
Too Bad she’s a single mom and smokes weed but other than that she makes me feel good..
She’s also my type, shes 5‘9 I’m 5‘10, she has blonde curly hair. I just like that. We all know these girls that are bangable but you wouldn’t like to spend time with them. She’s not like that for me

 

[Plinco]

So Im dating this 20yo single mother . Found her on a dating app. We texted a bit and had our first date after and we’re meeting until now.
She’s really into me and does anything to make me happy.
I met many women before and none of them treated me like she does. She accepts her role as a woman. If I’d tell her to drive 1 hour to meet me right now she would do it without hesitation.
She has red flags and green flags.
Red flags : she’s smoking weed, she has a kid, she acts really desperate
Green flags: she has a good job and she isn’t broke, she accepts that I would never be her kids father, submissive, respects me a lot

Im a single dad and i know that dating a single mom isn’t a good thing even as a single dad but I’m really enjoying this right now.
i mean one time i was angry at her and didn’t talk to Her. She drove to my town just to apologize and bring me lunch.
Too Bad she’s a single mom and smokes weed but other than that she makes me feel good..
She’s also my type, shes 5‘9 I’m 5‘10, she has blonde curly hair. I just like that. We all know these girls that are bangable but you wouldn’t like to spend time with them. She’s not like that for me

I think you answered your own question with the red flags you mentioned; she's desperate and probably looking for a beta bux situation from you. There is a sense that both of you being single parents that you two could meet on similar terms in a relationship. The important thing here is that you are in control and if a relationship comes out of this then you both have to respect each other for who you two are, not for what you two have.

Most likely she is looking to trap a beta with her charms to take care of her bastard child. This is why it is so important to have self-respect and have standards for the people you choose to have around you.

 

[Baibars]

I'm in the same boat, but I'm not a dad but this single mom is great with me as she is with you, do you see yourself with her long term? They act desperate cause she knows her shelf life is almost over and her subconscious she knows no man with a lot to offer would like to date a single mother, probably you offer a lot, so that's why she will try to lock you down quickly. I'd like to see other people's response in this topic.

I see myself meeting her long term cause i like her not only for sex but not more than that. I made my boundaries clear and she accepted them. If i'd have to compromise my self worth in order to be with her i'd definitely drop her.

Yes you have a point but i know a lot of single moms who still expect a lot from a man and many of them are still able to get a superior man if they look semi good.
I don't have a lot to offer money wise. She even earns more than me. She'd do anything for me. She'd give me money if i'd ask her. If I wanted i could use and drop her but i won't do it because she seems genuine.

 

[SW15]

I don't think it is as problematic for a single dad like @Baibars to be dealing with a single mom. However, 20 is rather young to be a single mom. High value women aren't single moms at 20. I realize too many women postpone childbirth too far into life but giving birth at 18-19 is problematic, despite that time being near peak fertility.

I think this is a less than ideal situation but I don't know if there's an action to be taken at this moment.