"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Submission vs autonomy

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I like your points. And I do agree a healthy level of submission is important in that masculine vs female energy. However, that only works if the masculine energy is in tune enough to like you said, be worthy to be respected, trusted, and followed.

Not all submissiveness is healthy. There is codependency in someone so afraid to speak their mind and trust their intelligence/confidence. There is unbalance in one single person in a healthy committed relationship making every single decision. There needs to be mutual trust and respect to allow each other to influence a couple's vision for the future.

My two cents.


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Facts, I agree bro. I am trying to make sure that I am a man that is worthy to be respected, trusted and followed.
 
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