Stupid ring question

[Deep Dish]

This past weekend I went to my favorite bar in town. I've been going there for five years and it's a really cool bar which is Orlando's equivalent to Cheers, the friendly neighborhood bar where everyone knows your name.

Anyway, there was this real gorgeous female bartender who I chatted up for a long time and she kept hanging around me all night long. (She even neg hit me on my age.) I think there might be potential there, but there is one thing I noticed which draws my curiousity. She wore a ring on her left pinky; at that, a very nice ring, and I first thought she was married until I noticed it was on her pinky.

From what I understand, a ring on the pinky is particular to older women in their late twenties and beyond. It's their way of hinting "I'm single." But since younger women hint at singlehood by, duh, not having any rings on their fingers, the question arises: single but in what way? Is it "I'm single and want to get married" or "I'm single and slutty"?

I was able to strongly infer the bartender is most likely single, but I still am curious what the ring signifies in general.

 

[Victory Unlimited]

Yo Deep Dish,


I'm not aware of any secret code of jewelry placement. Nor am I one of the lords of the "rings", so I can't really help you there...lol

BUT, I would say, rather than wasting another second of your precious life wondering about it, just find a way to pull this chick to the side and cooly and confidently give her the "gift" of going out with you, or spending some time with you AWAY from the bar.

Then, after you put it out there, shut the fukk up and pay attention to whatever you see and hear coming from her immediately after you "put it out there". Anything other than a quick "yes" indicates that she has either low to moderate interest in you, OR that she is in the process of making a value judgement as to whether or not spending time with you is a BETTER option than NOT.

And after you "ask her out, or whatever guys like to call it these days...", DON'T HELP HER WITH HER ANSWER. Much can be gleaned by the length of her reaction time, the enthusiasm of her response, and or the potentially UNCOMFORTABLE silence that will manifest itself if she DOESN'T give you a response at all (and yes, I've seen this happen...).

I know you already KNOW all these things, Deep Dish. I basically just wrote all of this mostly for the benefit of others. But what I mean for YOU to come away with is THIS simple reminder:

Whenever a man finds himself spending 5 minutes trying to analyze what a woman is thinking...then he's already spent 4 minutes TOO LONG.

ACTION, my friend.

...and ACTION----this day, if at all possible.

 

[romangod]

I was able to strongly infer the bartender is most likely single, but I still am curious what the ring signifies in general.



It signifies that it is the "one ring" which controls all the AFCs who don't have the courage to ask her if she's available.

 

[grinder]

DD, nobody can tell you sh*t that you don’t already know.

So I’ll just remind you to play to your strength, use your curiosity to probe her for her answers and opinions. She will know if you genuinely care to explore her answers further.

Personally, this is my strongest play. Simple, genuine curiosity. They know.

 

[Paradox]

Just ask her.

Here is a post about rings

How to Identify Wedding/Engagement Rings on Women's Fingers?

 

[joekerr31]

so far no one has any idea what various ring fingers mean. so any woman who wears a ring on a certain finger to send a message to men is an idiot, cuz none of us know what it means. heck, i know single women who wear rings on their marriage finger. i asked a few of them why they did that since they were single, their response? "i love this ring and it only fits on this finger." ummm ok, whatever.

do not try to understand women and their rings.

you should really revert to a simplier method of assessing women. are you attracted to her? yes? then go talk to her.

simple.

 

[droogie]

I see women wearing rings on their ring fingers that don't seem to be for an engagement all the time. It could be an easy out for them if they get approached by somebody that doesn't make the grade. I guess I need to start incquiring to find out. That might help.

 

[joekerr31]

you: "hey i was wondering what that ring on your finger meant?"
her: oh this? its to harmonize my chi energy.
you: very cool. i wear a ring for that also.
her: really? i don't see any rings on your fingers.
you: ya, you don't wear this kind of ring on your finger. giggidy giggidy giggidy.

 

[cedd]

isn't there anything more important to ask her ?

cheers

 

[aliasguy]

Don't worry about what her stupid ring "means."

F*ck her or DON'T f*ck her.

Jesus.

 

[STR8UP]

Dish....sorry i couldn't make it to the shindig over the weekend, ended up having to work late. Happy birthday, BTW.

As for the ring thing, I would just ask her. Could there be a more perfect opportunity to engage a female in just the kind of mindless babble that they so enjoy?

Either that or take me over there and I'll size her up for you...lol

 

[KarmaSutra]

DISH, my brother, HAPPY FVCKING BIRTHDAY!

:cheer:

 

[Deep Dish]

BUT, I would say, rather than wasting another second of your precious life wondering about it

That's exactly why I posted the question, I have enough more important things on my mind.

 

[Deep Dish]

And thanks to STR8UP and Karma for the birthday wishes. I'm now 28.