"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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yeah, you admins can delete this one once i get just a few anwsers.

the thing is i don't seem to be getting enough opportunities to meet new chicks. i do distance-education now, and i only go to the local university for one class. yeah, i'm a college student, but it's tough for me to get involved at the school here when i'm only taking 3cr. and that class is an independent study that consists of 9 guys, all graduate students, with myself as the only undergrad. i try going to school with the excuse of studying for a few hours in the library, hoping that walking on campus and around will give me some opportunities; but overall, it's a lot tougher than if i was just a student. last semester when i was on campus in my univ. in nc, i met a lot of hbs because they were in my classes, near my friends' dorms, or at parties.

i'm only taking 7 cr. this semester, so i feel stupid going to the coffee places on campus to 'study' and see if there are cute girls around, because there's no reason to be there (if i need caffeine to get through a measley 7 cr. i'm an idiot). i can't really join clubs as i don't get any student benefits because i'm not a real student there.

i justed wanted to know, do any of you guys just walk around doing approaches? like, not between classes or while waiting for someone/something, etc., but only approaches. i know clubs/bars are where you would usually go to do this, but i feel more comfortable during the day. what i'm looking for is reassurance that this is not weird to just go walk around and do approaches when you're bored or what not and since you really have no other activity through which you can meet girls.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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You are thinking too logically. But even your logic is flawed.
People don't give a rats a55 about you bieng in the cafeteria. And even so what do you care.

If you think what you do is weird chics will think its weird. Women are animals and they only go around perceiving stupid cues and illusions.
 
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Hahaha, you are too funny - as if people really know or care how many 'credits' you carry?? You are deluding yourself - why???
 

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ok, i get the drift, i guess i should have more confidence and not give f*ck. true, others don't know about my credits (heck, now that i think of it, they don't know about my student status either)...i get it now. i'm going out to every student spot from now on. thanks for the reality check guys. my logic was screwed.
 

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thats the spirit man. go for it
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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