i met this girl at this concert, the convo went really well. got her number and told her that i was going to call...however, i told her a fake name...i was alittle buzzed and didnt feel like to keep repeating my name(difficult/uncommon). i know it was a dumb move in my part....how should i go about telling her...heh thanks
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
stupid lie
- Thread starter Triangulo
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Ace of Flames
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Just like you told us.
You were buzzed, and your name is hard to say. Plus, with all the loud music, she couldn't hear you anyway. Then tell her your real name.
No biggie.
You were buzzed, and your name is hard to say. Plus, with all the loud music, she couldn't hear you anyway. Then tell her your real name.
No biggie.
It's funny because I never use my real name in clubs and I met my gf in the club and she still calls me my fake name... it just got comfortable for her... she knows my real name btw, but she calls me my fake name... its hilarious...
I told her real name when she was drunk btw... works magic...
-Cod3r
I told her real name when she was drunk btw... works magic...
-Cod3r
Nex
Senior Don Juan
Man, that's very simple really.
Just say you gave her your nickname because you got used to it.
Just say you gave her your nickname because you got used to it.
Kings_royalty
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didnt feel like to keep repeating my name(difficult/uncommon
Having a difficult and uncommon name is the MAIN reason why you should use it because you'll 'stand out', it will stick in her mind that she couldn't pronounce it, or that it was uncommon. Think man...
I think you've screwed yourself now because she'll always have it in the back of her mind that you lied about your real name; girls don't forget these types of details.
I agree with ACE; hopefully she'll let it slide and won't brand you as a liar. This may sound a bit harsh, but this is the way girls think. Good luck...
Having a difficult and uncommon name is the MAIN reason why you should use it because you'll 'stand out', it will stick in her mind that she couldn't pronounce it, or that it was uncommon. Think man...
I think you've screwed yourself now because she'll always have it in the back of her mind that you lied about your real name; girls don't forget these types of details.
I agree with ACE; hopefully she'll let it slide and won't brand you as a liar. This may sound a bit harsh, but this is the way girls think. Good luck...
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Nex
Senior Don Juan
Doesn't matter. You're making too much of it. Just say in the phone or in person, "by the way my real name is XXXXX, YYYYY is a nickname I use with friends, so call me XXXXXX"
Mr Spitfire
Don Juan
Alot of you guys worry about EVERYTHING. Who cares? Not them. But if you do they will. That is a fact. Just keep it real.
Mr Spitfire
Don Juan
Wow, you give really bad advice Kings Royalty.
The worst advice to give a guy is advice that makes him worry, especially about something that is nothing. He hasn't ****ed anything up but when you tell him he has he worries about it.
You also don't understand women very well. Women dont have a "back of their mind." They have an impression of you. Period. Trying to be mr perfect will make you mr wrong.
The worst advice to give a guy is advice that makes him worry, especially about something that is nothing. He hasn't ****ed anything up but when you tell him he has he worries about it.
You also don't understand women very well. Women dont have a "back of their mind." They have an impression of you. Period. Trying to be mr perfect will make you mr wrong.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.