i met this girl at this concert, the convo went really well. got her number and told her that i was going to call...however, i told her a fake name...i was alittle buzzed and didnt feel like to keep repeating my name(difficult/uncommon). i know it was a dumb move in my part....how should i go about telling her...heh thanks
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
stupid lie
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Ace of Flames
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Just like you told us.
You were buzzed, and your name is hard to say. Plus, with all the loud music, she couldn't hear you anyway. Then tell her your real name.
No biggie.
You were buzzed, and your name is hard to say. Plus, with all the loud music, she couldn't hear you anyway. Then tell her your real name.
No biggie.
It's funny because I never use my real name in clubs and I met my gf in the club and she still calls me my fake name... it just got comfortable for her... she knows my real name btw, but she calls me my fake name... its hilarious...
I told her real name when she was drunk btw... works magic...
-Cod3r
I told her real name when she was drunk btw... works magic...
-Cod3r
Nex
Senior Don Juan
Man, that's very simple really.
Just say you gave her your nickname because you got used to it.
Just say you gave her your nickname because you got used to it.
Kings_royalty
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didnt feel like to keep repeating my name(difficult/uncommon
Having a difficult and uncommon name is the MAIN reason why you should use it because you'll 'stand out', it will stick in her mind that she couldn't pronounce it, or that it was uncommon. Think man...
I think you've screwed yourself now because she'll always have it in the back of her mind that you lied about your real name; girls don't forget these types of details.
I agree with ACE; hopefully she'll let it slide and won't brand you as a liar. This may sound a bit harsh, but this is the way girls think. Good luck...
Having a difficult and uncommon name is the MAIN reason why you should use it because you'll 'stand out', it will stick in her mind that she couldn't pronounce it, or that it was uncommon. Think man...
I think you've screwed yourself now because she'll always have it in the back of her mind that you lied about your real name; girls don't forget these types of details.
I agree with ACE; hopefully she'll let it slide and won't brand you as a liar. This may sound a bit harsh, but this is the way girls think. Good luck...
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Nex
Senior Don Juan
Doesn't matter. You're making too much of it. Just say in the phone or in person, "by the way my real name is XXXXX, YYYYY is a nickname I use with friends, so call me XXXXXX"
Mr Spitfire
Don Juan
Alot of you guys worry about EVERYTHING. Who cares? Not them. But if you do they will. That is a fact. Just keep it real.
Mr Spitfire
Don Juan
Wow, you give really bad advice Kings Royalty.
The worst advice to give a guy is advice that makes him worry, especially about something that is nothing. He hasn't ****ed anything up but when you tell him he has he worries about it.
You also don't understand women very well. Women dont have a "back of their mind." They have an impression of you. Period. Trying to be mr perfect will make you mr wrong.
The worst advice to give a guy is advice that makes him worry, especially about something that is nothing. He hasn't ****ed anything up but when you tell him he has he worries about it.
You also don't understand women very well. Women dont have a "back of their mind." They have an impression of you. Period. Trying to be mr perfect will make you mr wrong.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.