"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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(Study) Wearing a weighted vest for 8 hours a day significantly speeds up weight/fat loss

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Just started wearing mine, first week...I would highly recommend an APEX Up one which is a runners vest and is super comfy and not bulky at all.
Is it small enough to wear at work (office job)?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Is it small enough to wear at work (office job)?
For sure. It's kind of like wearing a very small life vest. Kinda like between the size of a back brace and the size a life vest. I have the largest one, 30lbs and it's fine, but if you get any of the smaller ones(they go in 5lb increments) they would be even smaller.

 

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6 days into this wearing a 30lb vest 10-12 hours a day and I can say a few things...

1) You sweat a LOT with this so make sure to drink extra water. And potentially some electrolytes. Even just walking around makes you sweat. Any type of activity makes you sweat double.

2) Shoulders/traps were pretty sore for the first 4-5 days. Yesterday wasn't too bad tho. Think my body is getting used to it.

3) certain exercises can be a little weird with the vest on, especially stuff where you are laying against the bench takes a little bit to get used to it.
 

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UPDATE:

Had to modify my plans after wearing it 2 weeks straight for 10-12 hours a day.

On the 14th day my body felt like it had been run over by a truck, my heart rate was 10-12 bpm elevated overnight and I had trouble sleeping. Classic overtraining/stress reactions by the body. So I have decided to go either a 2 on/2 off or 2 on/1 off split depending on how my body feels by the end of the week this week.

I believe this is because I had a heavier vest at 30lbs when for my bodyweight, a 20lb vest would have been recommended.

So I will say do not underestimate that component. It's not the weight on any one day that is the issue, it's the constant weight being carried around day after day while you are doing everything that ends up catching up to you. I'd recommend a vest around 10-12% of your bodyweight so it would be easier to wear longer.

That being said, it appears my body put on muscle while losing fat because my weight stayed stable but my waist size dropped, I look leaner and my veins in my arms are just looking very spidery now.

Estimated tape measure average has me in the mid 12s now where I was in the low 14s prior.
 

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Sounds good.

Been through the overtraining thing. Sometimes you don't recognize it at first. It creeps on you.

I might start with a 10 pound vest (145 lbs bodyweight) and wear while I'm at work (9 hours).

If I do 15 or 20lbs., I would likely wear it half the day (4-5 hours). And then take it off after lunch.

I'd probably feel like superman for the last half of the day
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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