"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Strong, Silent and Capable type in College

SamMalone

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What are your opinions and theories on this type of male in college? He may not be a true "DJ" that you would think of when asked what a DJ is, but could this type of male get women? What about vs a "Cool extrovert" guy?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Francisco d'Anconia

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Nowadays it's questionable if the strong silent type holds the same amount of value as in days past. There may still be a market for that type of guy but it may be limited to women who aren't as comfortable with the charismatic, outgoing types of men. In university it seems that popularity is the key and a guy with charisma and an outgoing personality tends to be more popular. So like it or not, guys may have to choose between stepping forward beyond their comfort zone or stepping back into background and hope to be noticed.
 

Juan_Man

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Being a strong, silent type may get you noticed (especially if you are goodlooking) but not much else. Girls today seem to want the fun guy.
 

Dark Chivalry

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If he is too silent to approach women, no women is going to notice his qualities.
 

Nighthawk

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Sounds like a really nice guy that would be perfect for one of their friends.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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