"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Strong, Silent and Capable type in College

SamMalone

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What are your opinions and theories on this type of male in college? He may not be a true "DJ" that you would think of when asked what a DJ is, but could this type of male get women? What about vs a "Cool extrovert" guy?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Francisco d'Anconia

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Nowadays it's questionable if the strong silent type holds the same amount of value as in days past. There may still be a market for that type of guy but it may be limited to women who aren't as comfortable with the charismatic, outgoing types of men. In university it seems that popularity is the key and a guy with charisma and an outgoing personality tends to be more popular. So like it or not, guys may have to choose between stepping forward beyond their comfort zone or stepping back into background and hope to be noticed.
 

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Being a strong, silent type may get you noticed (especially if you are goodlooking) but not much else. Girls today seem to want the fun guy.
 

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If he is too silent to approach women, no women is going to notice his qualities.
 

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Sounds like a really nice guy that would be perfect for one of their friends.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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