"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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"Strong Response" to passive - aggressive behavior?

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What is a good / strong way to deal with passive aggressive behavior? Here are some examples:

1) I ask her what she wants to eat, she goes "Anything", when i pick said restaraunt she's a buzzkill until i pry out of her what she was upset about

2) I tell her no (to something she wants), damper / buzzkill for rest of night

3) Gives silent treatment for a petty reason

4)Procrastinates until I end up just doing it

5) She "misunderstood" what was expected and clarified beforehand (i.e. we agree to leave a friend's place by 9pm because we have work, its 10:15pm she claims we agreed to leave at 11pm)

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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I tell people who act like this that I see what they're doing, I absolutely hate it and I will keep demanding answers until I get them.
 

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What is a good / strong way to deal with passive aggressive behavior? Here are some examples:

1) I ask her what she wants to eat, she goes "Anything", when i pick said restaraunt she's a buzzkill until i pry out of her what she was upset about

2) I tell her no (to something she wants), damper / buzzkill for rest of night

3) Gives silent treatment for a petty reason

4)Procrastinates until I end up just doing it

5) She "misunderstood" what was expected and clarified beforehand (i.e. we agree to leave a friend's place by 9pm because we have work, its 10:15pm she claims we agreed to leave at 11pm)

Thanks in advance.
A couple options:

- If you want to take the more bold no BS approach "You are in a shyt poor mood lately who shoved a cactus up your t\/\/at?"

- If you want to respond to passive aggressive with passive aggressive: "You seem upset and like you have a lot on your mind. I don't want to be in your way. Call me when you get shyt straightened out and want to have fun again" (then ghost)

Before you think that being passive aggressive back is a bad idea you need to realize that there is no better way to get under a passive aggressive person's skin than to be passive aggressive back. Naturally passive aggressive people all think they are special and that being passive aggressive is something that only they know how to do. When you throw it back in their face it blows their mind and often times you only need to throw it back in their face once and they won't do it to you again.
 

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Someone in her past has 'rewarded' this current behavior. This explains why she believes it'll work again.

Even if you don't comply, an emotional reaction will provide her with some sort of concession. She needs not to be 'rewarded' with this as well.

Put her in an 'adult version' of "Time Out." Cut a date short. If she asks why, you simply reply "I can tell that you seen unhappy and so I'm sure that you'd rather be alone." If she claims otherwise, you can calmly say ... "if it's not for you own good, then it's for mine."

You may encounter a tantrum, but don't react. Just calmly drive her home.
 

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Someone in her past has 'rewarded' this current behavior. This explains why she believes it'll work again.

Even if you don't comply, an emotional reaction will provide her with some sort of concession. She needs not to be 'rewarded' with this as well.

Put her in an 'adult version' of "Time Out." Cut a date short. If she asks why, you simply reply "I can tell that you seen unhappy and so I'm sure that you'd rather be alone." If she claims otherwise, you can calmly say ... "if it's not for you own good, then it's for mine."

You may encounter a tantrum, but don't react. Just calmly drive her home.
I read up on passive agressiveness and the message I got was get far, far away from the people practicing this(wikihow site)

My sanity is more important than coping with this garbage behaviour.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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A couple options:

- If you want to take the more bold no BS approach "You are in a shyt poor mood lately who shoved a cactus up your t\/\/at?"

- If you want to respond to passive aggressive with passive aggressive: "You seem upset and like you have a lot on your mind. I don't want to be in your way. Call me when you get shyt straightened out and want to have fun again" (then ghost)

Before you think that being passive aggressive back is a bad idea you need to realize that there is no better way to get under a passive aggressive person's skin than to be passive aggressive back. Naturally passive aggressive people all think they are special and that being passive aggressive is something that only they know how to do. When you throw it back in their face it blows their mind and often times you only need to throw it back in their face once and they won't do it to you again.
actually that is something who works on everyone use they annoying trait against then, she tend to do a silent treatment do the same, passive agressive too, that kind of thing take the person over the wall, they don't like it, and they tend to confront you about it pretty fast, with you can toss on they face, but is ok you doing it?

if anything you should and need to cut it, and best way to do it is ghost her, she will get the memo if not, well is not like you will miss her or anything since you should be busy with other girls
 

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actually that is something who works on everyone use they annoying trait against then, she tend to do a silent treatment do the same, passive agressive too, that kind of thing take the person over the wall, they don't like it, and they tend to confront you about it pretty fast, with you can toss on they face, but is ok you doing it?

if anything you should and need to cut it, and best way to do it is ghost her, she will get the memo if not, well is not like you will miss her or anything since you should be busy with other girls
If it's the same girl from the other post it is his GF of 5 years who is basically on her way out the door, and is emotionally checking out
 

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If it's the same girl from the other post it is his GF of 5 years who is basically on her way out the door, and is emotionally checking out
if that is the case she already is, but he should have cut her already, just imagine, a girl so annoying she can't even find somone to branch swing
 

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Take her back to your place, bang her and then kick her out. Then go out and meet a girl that is more fun to spend time with.
 
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