"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Willard

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Sounds like she likes you, see what happens, you have nothing to lose, good luck.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Strippers game is weak, I told this stripper ***** she better run better game then he *** spewing mouth was spitting.
 

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Don't even call her you already think this stripper is special, you already lost.
 

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Bang her, but it sounds like you've already developed one-itis for a stripper.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Sideways- you seem like you are falling very fast and its clouding your vision. Times of hardship often draw unfamiliar people together, but it rarely lasts when life gets back to normal. Our minds dond't allow us to think clearly in times like this.

You don't last very long in the titty bar business with a "heart of gold". Girls with hearts of gold aren't tough enough to last very long and get taken advantage of. Putting on a happy face every night while trying to entertain a bunch of men sticking their fingers in your coochie becomes a very tough job day in and day out when you aren't medicated with drugs/alcohol. If this girl has been dancing for a few years and its her main job, she is a very good actor and her intentions are likely not genuine. she will come with a bunch of issues. Girls that come on fast even leave faster. Its the emotional feeling of the day that draws them near. Your story obvisouly triggered some emotions in her.


I've spent a lot of time in strip clubs over the years. Dated my fair share of strippers. Had a lot of good times with them, but the truth is most of them are damaged goods. You ask what you should do???? Just proceed slowly and take it all like you just don't care. You aren't the first guy this girl has connected to and put her number in some dudes phone.

If you really want to date this girl, then play your cards close. When you show up at the club next, interact with the other girls like this girl was nothing different. Let her work for your approval. Let it be known that you are just there to blow off some steam and enjoy life. Dont come across as the rest of the horndogs that get mad because they don't get any play after they've blown $100 on lap dances. I never spent more than $10-15 and seduced many of them. After about 3-4 visits, ask her to meet you some where.
 

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_sideways_ said:
Well she gave me her real name and spoke like a real girl who was concerned about my problems...plus she works out so i dont dislike her.
how do you know it was her real name?

have you ever heard of lorenzo von matterhorn? from the show how I met your mother?

or how about person of interest where every character is always using a fake name at all times.

_sideways_ said:
How to proceed....

I sat with her for a long time. I told her about my dads health problems and how its affecting my mom. She grabs my phone...puts her info in it and tells me to call her so we can talk more. Shes super fine....

Texted her today saying thanks for letting me vent.

So how to proceed? What would you do. I mean she handed her info to me. Yay
if she lets you hang out with her in a way that doesn't bring profit to her, then she actually likes you.

if you only hang out with her at your expense and her gain, you're obviously being used
 

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You just need to get her over to your crib and do that night thang.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Its not like im in love. Im tired of fat chicks so i really want a fit chick
 

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Gray The Prince said:
The fact that the OP has high rep power and is making threads like these show how far SoSuave has fallen in recent years.
Is it possible he gained rep just to troll us? :eek:
 
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