"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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How to proceed....

I sat with her for a long time. I told her about my dads health problems and how its affecting my mom. She grabs my phone...puts her info in it and tells me to call her so we can talk more. Shes super fine....

Texted her today saying thanks for letting me vent.

So how to proceed? What would you do. I mean she handed her info to me. Yay
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I thought you hated strippers and prostitutes.

She will find some way to get money out of you.
 

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What the hell possessed you to talk to a random stripper about personal issues?
That's what a shrink is for.

Invite her out for a drink, take it from there.
 

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Well she gave me her real name and spoke like a real girl who was concerned about my problems...plus she works out so i dont dislike her.
 

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Rival said:
What the hell possessed you to talk to a random stripper about personal issues?
That's what a shrink is for.

Invite her out for a drink, take it from there.

She asked me why i was there cuz it was early. I told her i needed to get away from it all so thats why we spoke about it.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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_sideways_ said:
How to proceed....

I sat with her for a long time. I told her about my dads health problems and how its affecting my mom. She grabs my phone...puts her info in it and tells me to call her so we can talk more. Shes super fine....

Texted her today saying thanks for letting me vent.

So how to proceed? What would you do. I mean she handed her info to me. Yay
She wants you to become a regular. Sounds like you are a little naive...
 

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That thought did cross my mind. But i dont have money to give so if thats what shes after then boohoo. But i also think im sexy enough for her to like me. So...
 

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She must have liked you for one reason or another. Even strippers and prostitutes need relationships away from work. She is hardly going to be like this with every dude, probably a right b!tch with other dudes.
 

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_sideways_ said:
But i dont have money to give so if thats what shes after then boohoo.
Tell her that and see if she still wants to "talk".
 

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Come on dude...every one wants money. But she can get a dinner while she makes me feel better lol
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I texted her that i wanted to see her out wearing a cap. Lol. She said in due time shes busy today...
 

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_sideways_ said:
Well she gave me her real name and spoke like a real girl who was concerned about my problems...
Thats their job, build you up pretend to care and take your money. In my experience it seems a lot of men are there for emotional support which I guess makes sense in a way, just always pisses me off when I have to wait to bury my face in her tîts because some guy thinks hes running game on a stripper. I'm not saying it couldnt turn out well, but tread very carefully my friend.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Were you by any chance throwing dollar bills at her while talking to her?
 

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SmooveMooves said:
Some dudes just never learn.
Lust is the most blinding fvcking thing on earth. Can you really blame 'em?
 

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jurry said:
just always pisses me off when I have to wait to bury my face in her tîts because some guy thinks hes running game on a stripper. I'm not saying it couldnt turn out well, but tread very carefully my friend.
No one runs game on strippers/escorts, they run game on dudes lol. DJ's are best to just stay away from them altogether, they're not into you for your looks, ripped body, or sense of style, all the see is $$$.
 

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El Payaso said:
Were you by any chance throwing dollar bills at her while talking to her?
No. She saunteted over and i brought up my scenario by telling her im not looking for dances. Just wanted to escape for a while.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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