Lets say I got a girl interested, but due to certain circumstances I cannot act on anything too overtly. In the open I still catch her looking at me, and will look away when i catch her. Yet at the same time she will pretend to ignore me occasionnaly. To sum it up she basically acts interested one minute and disinterested another, and im wondering if this could mean she now despises me for playing with her emotions but never acting on it.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
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- Thread starter TaniusAC
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
If you only exchange glances, it's very doubtful its anything as deep as emotion, but if you don't return her signals, then she'll stop sending them.
I had a girl who would purposely smile and say hello to me every time she saw me. But one day I didn't notice her smile until she turned away and ever since then she won't even look in my direction.
I had a girl who would purposely smile and say hello to me every time she saw me. But one day I didn't notice her smile until she turned away and ever since then she won't even look in my direction.
here's what i think is going on. i know because i used to do it all the time
1. you catch her looking at you and she quickly looks away - she looks away because she is very interested
2. she ignores you completely - she is doing this because she doesn't want to feel the pain of looking away when you catch her looking.
how do i know? i used to stare at this girl who i had serious oneitis, then she would catch me staring; i would look away as quickly as possible. I fvcking hated doing this cuz i knew she would know i liked her. so instead of paying more attention to her, i cut off my attention from her; i tried not to go near her, i tried not to look at her at all because if i did, i'd probably end up quickyl looking away as soon as she noticed me.
1. you catch her looking at you and she quickly looks away - she looks away because she is very interested
2. she ignores you completely - she is doing this because she doesn't want to feel the pain of looking away when you catch her looking.
how do i know? i used to stare at this girl who i had serious oneitis, then she would catch me staring; i would look away as quickly as possible. I fvcking hated doing this cuz i knew she would know i liked her. so instead of paying more attention to her, i cut off my attention from her; i tried not to go near her, i tried not to look at her at all because if i did, i'd probably end up quickyl looking away as soon as she noticed me.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.