That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I like you're thinking, son.Originally posted by Soshyopathe
Don't increase your calories, but go on a powerlifting regiment. Clean and jerk, Squat, Deadlift, Bench, pullups, rows, close-grips. Throw in some chain training if you are hardcore. And use explosive lifting movements.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Amen.Originally posted by Soshyopathe
Don't increase your calories, but go on a powerlifting regiment. Clean and jerk, Squat, Deadlift, Bench, pullups, rows, close-grips. Throw in some chain training if you are hardcore. And use explosive lifting movements.
He means close grip bench press which is when your hands are 8-10 inches apart. Here are links for both.Originally posted by CaptianMorgan
When u say close grips do u mean keep ur hands close together while doing bench or something. And what are snatches i have never heard of them.
You know what? I could never get the hang of the snatch. I don't know how to transfer from the clean to the jerk in one smooth motion. Is it just a clean to a jerk with no pause or what?Originally posted by wheelin&dealin
I like you're thinking, son.
Snatches are a money lift too.
Snatch is a (very) hard excercise to do.Originally posted by Soshyopathe
You know what? I could never get the hang of the snatch. I don't know how to transfer from the clean to the jerk in one smooth motion. Is it just a clean to a jerk with no pause or what?
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
I don't do the jerk part. Just cleans and snatches for me. If I wanted to do an explosive shoulder exercise, I would do push presses by themselves.Originally posted by Soshyopathe
You know what? I could never get the hang of the snatch. I don't know how to transfer from the clean to the jerk in one smooth motion. Is it just a clean to a jerk with no pause or what?