Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I like you're thinking, son.Originally posted by Soshyopathe
Don't increase your calories, but go on a powerlifting regiment. Clean and jerk, Squat, Deadlift, Bench, pullups, rows, close-grips. Throw in some chain training if you are hardcore. And use explosive lifting movements.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Amen.Originally posted by Soshyopathe
Don't increase your calories, but go on a powerlifting regiment. Clean and jerk, Squat, Deadlift, Bench, pullups, rows, close-grips. Throw in some chain training if you are hardcore. And use explosive lifting movements.
He means close grip bench press which is when your hands are 8-10 inches apart. Here are links for both.Originally posted by CaptianMorgan
When u say close grips do u mean keep ur hands close together while doing bench or something. And what are snatches i have never heard of them.
You know what? I could never get the hang of the snatch. I don't know how to transfer from the clean to the jerk in one smooth motion. Is it just a clean to a jerk with no pause or what?Originally posted by wheelin&dealin
I like you're thinking, son.
Snatches are a money lift too.
Snatch is a (very) hard excercise to do.Originally posted by Soshyopathe
You know what? I could never get the hang of the snatch. I don't know how to transfer from the clean to the jerk in one smooth motion. Is it just a clean to a jerk with no pause or what?
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
I don't do the jerk part. Just cleans and snatches for me. If I wanted to do an explosive shoulder exercise, I would do push presses by themselves.Originally posted by Soshyopathe
You know what? I could never get the hang of the snatch. I don't know how to transfer from the clean to the jerk in one smooth motion. Is it just a clean to a jerk with no pause or what?