"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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street pick up sugestions?

Shaddow

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i have been thinking about aproaching people in the street but have come up against these obsticles.

a. what to say
b. interuptions/environment
c. how to isolate/moveaway

first off i have not been doing this long just under a month and f--k me its awsome, i have had so many amazing experiances already and am begining to understand the times when i pulled/got laid in the past and the times i failed, more so than sucseded.

a. I have been thinking about this. first of in the street why would you aproach somone to ask an opinion/directions/time etc when there are pleanty of others you could aproach? shes just going to think ... oh his hitting on me and be defensive to further convesation?
i understand that this can work but then that brings me to

b. environment/interuptions how can you deal with this and continue conversation in the confines of a street?

c. also, moveing them away from the street, is tricky... do most of you see the day time street pick up for number closing or more?

please correct me and let me know your opinions/experiances on this. Most of the people ive opened have been in clubs/bars or social environments like caffe's. im pushing the boat out but maybe its a bit too soon.

cheers,
S
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Do you live near a subway station? That's a day gamers paradise. LOL
 

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a. If you don't have something semi-interesting or funny to comment on (like if she's carrying 2 dozen bananas at the shop), just use an opinion opener. Doesn't need to be that creative, all it's for is starting the conversation.

I did this a lot when I was trying to get over my approach anxiety. I worked out that about 1 in every 5 women would happily stop and chat. The rest would still stop to chat, but didn't seem interested. Women aren't as freaked out as you might think. I never had a single women give me a dirty look or act as if I was weird. It's only as awkward as you make it.

b. I've never been interrupted when approaching a woman on the street. Start the conversation (e.g. ask for her opinion), have a quick chat, then get her number and leave.

c. Number closing is easier.
 

IamtheAlphamale

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Heres my take on the whole approaching thing... walk forward. When you get there just start talking. If nothing comes to mind and you totally blow it... you just got experience points towards your level up motha fuka. Next time or the time after that you will know what to say. So the moral is just walk forward and learn from there. Its just a matter of being comfortable in your environment so therefore you need a learning curve. No problem. Glad I could help :p
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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