"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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street pick up sugestions?

Shaddow

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i have been thinking about aproaching people in the street but have come up against these obsticles.

a. what to say
b. interuptions/environment
c. how to isolate/moveaway

first off i have not been doing this long just under a month and f--k me its awsome, i have had so many amazing experiances already and am begining to understand the times when i pulled/got laid in the past and the times i failed, more so than sucseded.

a. I have been thinking about this. first of in the street why would you aproach somone to ask an opinion/directions/time etc when there are pleanty of others you could aproach? shes just going to think ... oh his hitting on me and be defensive to further convesation?
i understand that this can work but then that brings me to

b. environment/interuptions how can you deal with this and continue conversation in the confines of a street?

c. also, moveing them away from the street, is tricky... do most of you see the day time street pick up for number closing or more?

please correct me and let me know your opinions/experiances on this. Most of the people ive opened have been in clubs/bars or social environments like caffe's. im pushing the boat out but maybe its a bit too soon.

cheers,
S
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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rakishness

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Do you live near a subway station? That's a day gamers paradise. LOL
 

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a. If you don't have something semi-interesting or funny to comment on (like if she's carrying 2 dozen bananas at the shop), just use an opinion opener. Doesn't need to be that creative, all it's for is starting the conversation.

I did this a lot when I was trying to get over my approach anxiety. I worked out that about 1 in every 5 women would happily stop and chat. The rest would still stop to chat, but didn't seem interested. Women aren't as freaked out as you might think. I never had a single women give me a dirty look or act as if I was weird. It's only as awkward as you make it.

b. I've never been interrupted when approaching a woman on the street. Start the conversation (e.g. ask for her opinion), have a quick chat, then get her number and leave.

c. Number closing is easier.
 

IamtheAlphamale

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Heres my take on the whole approaching thing... walk forward. When you get there just start talking. If nothing comes to mind and you totally blow it... you just got experience points towards your level up motha fuka. Next time or the time after that you will know what to say. So the moral is just walk forward and learn from there. Its just a matter of being comfortable in your environment so therefore you need a learning curve. No problem. Glad I could help :p
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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