"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Strategies for conquering one-itis?

floydtheater07

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I'm gonna admit that I have severe one-itis for my ex. And the problem is, she has a lot of sex, and is open about it. Everytime she writes in her blog or mentions that she had sex with somebody, I get depressed. In all honesty, I really just want to forget about her.


I've read the dj bible thoroughly, but I still have no idea how to stop caring about someone. Honestly guys, she is my one weakness that is hindering me every getting anything out of this site. Any suggestions would be appreciated (and any ridiculous criticisms would be proof that some people have no lives).

Thanks.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Shiftkey

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Step one: Stop reading her blog. Stop all contact with her, don't be friends with her, delete her phone number from your cell phone, destroy all pictures of her and all gifts from her (pawn expensive things).
Step two: Approach, date, and fvck other women.
 

floydtheater07

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Thanks guys. Yeah, I do best when I avoid her in general. But I went to a party last ngiht with here there, and of course she found someone to have sex with. But, it doesn't matter, I'm gonna avoid her like the plague.
 

tmpgstx

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She be a party ho dawg. You must be an insecure person (as most people are), but to be pining over a party girl is hell. There is no rhyme or reason to her BS other than her getting superficial attention by having more dycks going in and out of her than a revolving door at a NYC police station.
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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Originally posted by floydtheater07
I'm gonna admit that I have severe one-itis for my ex. And the problem is, she has a lot of sex, and is open about it. Everytime she writes in her blog or mentions that she had sex with somebody, I get depressed. In all honesty, I really just want to forget about her.
I can not comprehend why guys beat themselves up doing this sniffing around an ex. YOU'VE BROKEN UP, WHAT THE FVCK SHOULD YOU CARE!!??? :rolleyes:

As for seeing your ex with someone else I say again WHY THE FVCK SHOULD YOU CARE? Hell, I'm actually friends with a few (about four) of my ex's ex-bf's. We're actually in the same bike club so I'm actually the fifth guy that she's dated. Do any of us care or even talk about her? No way! She's not a part of any of our lives!

Like Shiftkey said, focus on sarging. Pull no punches and let it all hang out. Go balls to the wall, what have you got to loose?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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