"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Strange time for disappearing act?

Flex Luther

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Need some help..
My girlfriend has a history of disappearing acts that I've managed to quell thanks to this site 'do not let your gf disrespect you' being a good thread.
We have planned to go away for the weekend together this Saturday, as I live away from her studying, the phone is our main means of communication, we have spoken almost everyday until last Friday. I was too busy to call/text and likewise the following Saturday. However, I called Sunday.. Straight to voicemail?
Called again today.. Same again? Text.. No response.. Email (reminding her I'm to be treated respectfully etc) no response?

I am too busy to become frustrated atm and very much adherent to self improvement but how do I proceed?

Has anyone else experienced similar behaviour/situation?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Suspens

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Flex Luther said:
the phone is our main means of communication
Fail. Anyway, she isn't your "GF" anymore, assuming it's a LDR. Go ghost on this 'plate' for now and find another GF.
 

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Flex Luther said:
Need some help..
My girlfriend has a history of disappearing acts that I've managed to quell thanks to this site 'do not let your gf disrespect you' being a good thread.
We have planned to go away for the weekend together this Saturday, as I live away from her studying, the phone is our main means of communication, we have spoken almost everyday until last Friday. I was too busy to call/text and likewise the following Saturday. However, I called Sunday.. Straight to voicemail?
Called again today.. Same again? Text.. No response.. Email (reminding her I'm to be treated respectfully etc) no response?

I am too busy to become frustrated atm and very much adherent to self improvement but how do I proceed?

Has anyone else experienced similar behaviour/situation?

good now learn to screen and you will start to get somewhere, learning how to not let you gf be disrespectfull is just one thing, with if you screen right it won't ever be something you need to worry.

clarification though you didn't show on your plans and don't bother to even call her or what?

btw when she disapear she is doing something too important to care about you, take notice long distance LTR never goes well
 

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Alvafe said:
good now learn to screen and you will start to get somewhere, learning how to not let you gf be disrespectfull is just one thing, with if you screen right it won't ever be something you need to worry.

clarification though you didn't show on your plans and don't bother to even call her or what?

btw when she disapear she is doing something too important to care about you, take notice long distance LTR never goes well
to clarify our plans are for next weekend, I was busy this Saturday.
Thanks for your advice
 

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Suspens said:
Fail. Anyway, she isn't your "GF" anymore, assuming it's a LDR. Go ghost on this 'plate' for now and find another GF.
Too simplistic.
The phone is not our only means of comms, we see each other regularly. It seems to be a running theme in this forum that next her is a go to response for every difficult situation, but as the thread confidence persistence states; this is not how a true Don Juan acts. I posted about this girl months ago and received the same feedback, yet her IL has been at its highest since then, until now. I turned the situation around previously by acting like a man, if I had moved on then I would have missed out on months of great fun and sex because it was the easy route?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Suspens

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Too simplistic.
I know i know. Right now you are begging for respect via email, to which she has not replied.

Sorry but this one is over.
 
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