"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Strange time for disappearing act?

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Need some help..
My girlfriend has a history of disappearing acts that I've managed to quell thanks to this site 'do not let your gf disrespect you' being a good thread.
We have planned to go away for the weekend together this Saturday, as I live away from her studying, the phone is our main means of communication, we have spoken almost everyday until last Friday. I was too busy to call/text and likewise the following Saturday. However, I called Sunday.. Straight to voicemail?
Called again today.. Same again? Text.. No response.. Email (reminding her I'm to be treated respectfully etc) no response?

I am too busy to become frustrated atm and very much adherent to self improvement but how do I proceed?

Has anyone else experienced similar behaviour/situation?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Suspens

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Flex Luther said:
the phone is our main means of communication
Fail. Anyway, she isn't your "GF" anymore, assuming it's a LDR. Go ghost on this 'plate' for now and find another GF.
 

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Flex Luther said:
Need some help..
My girlfriend has a history of disappearing acts that I've managed to quell thanks to this site 'do not let your gf disrespect you' being a good thread.
We have planned to go away for the weekend together this Saturday, as I live away from her studying, the phone is our main means of communication, we have spoken almost everyday until last Friday. I was too busy to call/text and likewise the following Saturday. However, I called Sunday.. Straight to voicemail?
Called again today.. Same again? Text.. No response.. Email (reminding her I'm to be treated respectfully etc) no response?

I am too busy to become frustrated atm and very much adherent to self improvement but how do I proceed?

Has anyone else experienced similar behaviour/situation?

good now learn to screen and you will start to get somewhere, learning how to not let you gf be disrespectfull is just one thing, with if you screen right it won't ever be something you need to worry.

clarification though you didn't show on your plans and don't bother to even call her or what?

btw when she disapear she is doing something too important to care about you, take notice long distance LTR never goes well
 

Flex Luther

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Alvafe said:
good now learn to screen and you will start to get somewhere, learning how to not let you gf be disrespectfull is just one thing, with if you screen right it won't ever be something you need to worry.

clarification though you didn't show on your plans and don't bother to even call her or what?

btw when she disapear she is doing something too important to care about you, take notice long distance LTR never goes well
to clarify our plans are for next weekend, I was busy this Saturday.
Thanks for your advice
 

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Suspens said:
Fail. Anyway, she isn't your "GF" anymore, assuming it's a LDR. Go ghost on this 'plate' for now and find another GF.
Too simplistic.
The phone is not our only means of comms, we see each other regularly. It seems to be a running theme in this forum that next her is a go to response for every difficult situation, but as the thread confidence persistence states; this is not how a true Don Juan acts. I posted about this girl months ago and received the same feedback, yet her IL has been at its highest since then, until now. I turned the situation around previously by acting like a man, if I had moved on then I would have missed out on months of great fun and sex because it was the easy route?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Suspens

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Too simplistic.
I know i know. Right now you are begging for respect via email, to which she has not replied.

Sorry but this one is over.
 
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