"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Strange Situation - Great Sex, Then Says it Won't Work

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I did everything right...hardly text her, interest level is high. She is setting up dates. Making me dinner. Had a couple high octane dates, multiple places. We have sex and have a terrific 2 1/2 hour session, multiple rounds. Tells me I have crazy stamina and I know what I am doing...then bam, next day she says that she doesn't see this working out? WTF? What did I possibly do wrong.

I actually like this one, I was being real aloof....she was always laughing at me.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I'm going out on a limb here, but I think she already has a boyfriend she "forgot" to tell you about. Or a guy she was already considering dating, she tried you out, but sex isn't everything. She's going to go with the guy who makes her "feel" something at all times. Probably the guy who gives her good sex and texts her cute stuff at random hours.

Just play it cool man. She'll be back.

-Scars
 

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She wanted to try something and is now guilt-ridden. Count your blessing, this could of been a damaged case in the future. If she cleans up her act sh e'll be back. If not, do not go insane over it and chump out! Radio silence is your friend.
 

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Women spin plates too. She might just be considering her options and keeping things open, and worried that you might get attached and attempt to control her.

Just don't react. Play it cool and give her some distance. She will probably be back.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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ericksnc said:
I did everything right...hardly text her, interest level is high. She is setting up dates. Making me dinner. Had a couple high octane dates, multiple places. We have sex and have a terrific 2 1/2 hour session, multiple rounds. Tells me I have crazy stamina and I know what I am doing...then bam, next day she says that she doesn't see this working out? WTF? What did I possibly do wrong.

I actually like this one, I was being real aloof....she was always laughing at me.
Be careful with girls who come on too strong, usually have an ulterior motive.

She could have been laughing at you to get sex from you, don't believe everything people do is for real. A lot of times it's for their own ego and to protect themselves. As others say...she'll be back.
 

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I agree playing it cool is the best advice right now.
I mean you should be happy you got to bang her and now she's giving you the ticket out of this and to find other women.

Can't get any better than that.
 

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Plus, you're not really giving us all the details. For all we know, there could've been a conversation that took place between the sex being done and her leaving your place that made her think twice about you two.

At any rate, women change their minds all the time. I once hooked up with a girl at a party who was all over me from when I walked in the door; next time I saw her, though, the vibe wasn't the same and she wouldn't give it up. As guys we like to get a logical explanation when this happens, but you're wanting an answer from a gender that acts irrational at times.

So yeah, don't make a big deal out of it and move on. At least you got to bang it out, some dudes don't even get THAT far before the girl flakes on 'em!
 

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Harry Wilmington said:
Plus, you're not really giving us all the details. For all we know, there could've been a conversation that took place between the sex being done and her leaving your place that made her think twice about you two.


No conversation after sex...we put our clothes back on, kissed on the couch, made her laugh and then she walked me out, I pressed her against the wall and kissed her and off I went.

I went no contact after that. Until I got a text that said this won't work. I am just no contact right now.
 

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After sex you should of contacted her imo. Made her feel like a slut, and like you used her.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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somebody else is in the picture, you may be rebound guy.
 

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Theres several different possible explanations IMO. Things that others have suggested could be spot on. Tough to say. I had a similar situation a week ago. I was talking with a chick and she was really into me. Exchanging nude pics. She's texting me everyday calling me sexy in literally every text. We go on the first date, get some drinks at a bar and go back to my place. She hinted at not wanting to come over and having sex on the first night, but I knew I had her hooked so I convinced her to come over. We flanged up fvcking and she was loving everything. Didn't contact her much the following week and she basically told me that she dint think it would workout because we went too far too soon and to her a lot o the romance was lost. She said shed be willing to try to start over and go out again, but I kinda jut blew her off. It irritated me because It wasn't an impulse fvck. Shed been sending me nude pics for a couple weeks and was all into it. She mentioned just getting out of a 13 year relationship and that dating was still weird to her and that she was at fault for letting things go far so soon. Seemed to me like she felt like a slvt afterwards (even asked as we were fvcking if I would like her less now) and since she genuinely wanted a long term relationship she didn't think it would work anymore
 

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It's post # 2,300!!!

Judge nismo on the case.

1. She wanted sex at the moment. Be glad she decided to have it with you.

2. She has other options (all women do BTW) and she decided to lay you in an attempt to get a better man's attention or revenge.

3. Buyer's remorse. Most of women's flaking falls into this.

4. Be happy you banged.

5. There's a boyfriend around.

Above all, don't trip over this. (Schwarzenegger Voice) She'll be back.

Case closed.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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