Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Strange Situation - Great Sex, Then Says it Won't Work

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I did everything right...hardly text her, interest level is high. She is setting up dates. Making me dinner. Had a couple high octane dates, multiple places. We have sex and have a terrific 2 1/2 hour session, multiple rounds. Tells me I have crazy stamina and I know what I am doing...then bam, next day she says that she doesn't see this working out? WTF? What did I possibly do wrong.

I actually like this one, I was being real aloof....she was always laughing at me.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I'm going out on a limb here, but I think she already has a boyfriend she "forgot" to tell you about. Or a guy she was already considering dating, she tried you out, but sex isn't everything. She's going to go with the guy who makes her "feel" something at all times. Probably the guy who gives her good sex and texts her cute stuff at random hours.

Just play it cool man. She'll be back.

-Scars
 

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She wanted to try something and is now guilt-ridden. Count your blessing, this could of been a damaged case in the future. If she cleans up her act sh e'll be back. If not, do not go insane over it and chump out! Radio silence is your friend.
 

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Women spin plates too. She might just be considering her options and keeping things open, and worried that you might get attached and attempt to control her.

Just don't react. Play it cool and give her some distance. She will probably be back.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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ericksnc said:
I did everything right...hardly text her, interest level is high. She is setting up dates. Making me dinner. Had a couple high octane dates, multiple places. We have sex and have a terrific 2 1/2 hour session, multiple rounds. Tells me I have crazy stamina and I know what I am doing...then bam, next day she says that she doesn't see this working out? WTF? What did I possibly do wrong.

I actually like this one, I was being real aloof....she was always laughing at me.
Be careful with girls who come on too strong, usually have an ulterior motive.

She could have been laughing at you to get sex from you, don't believe everything people do is for real. A lot of times it's for their own ego and to protect themselves. As others say...she'll be back.
 

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I agree playing it cool is the best advice right now.
I mean you should be happy you got to bang her and now she's giving you the ticket out of this and to find other women.

Can't get any better than that.
 

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Plus, you're not really giving us all the details. For all we know, there could've been a conversation that took place between the sex being done and her leaving your place that made her think twice about you two.

At any rate, women change their minds all the time. I once hooked up with a girl at a party who was all over me from when I walked in the door; next time I saw her, though, the vibe wasn't the same and she wouldn't give it up. As guys we like to get a logical explanation when this happens, but you're wanting an answer from a gender that acts irrational at times.

So yeah, don't make a big deal out of it and move on. At least you got to bang it out, some dudes don't even get THAT far before the girl flakes on 'em!
 

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Harry Wilmington said:
Plus, you're not really giving us all the details. For all we know, there could've been a conversation that took place between the sex being done and her leaving your place that made her think twice about you two.


No conversation after sex...we put our clothes back on, kissed on the couch, made her laugh and then she walked me out, I pressed her against the wall and kissed her and off I went.

I went no contact after that. Until I got a text that said this won't work. I am just no contact right now.
 

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After sex you should of contacted her imo. Made her feel like a slut, and like you used her.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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somebody else is in the picture, you may be rebound guy.
 

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Theres several different possible explanations IMO. Things that others have suggested could be spot on. Tough to say. I had a similar situation a week ago. I was talking with a chick and she was really into me. Exchanging nude pics. She's texting me everyday calling me sexy in literally every text. We go on the first date, get some drinks at a bar and go back to my place. She hinted at not wanting to come over and having sex on the first night, but I knew I had her hooked so I convinced her to come over. We flanged up fvcking and she was loving everything. Didn't contact her much the following week and she basically told me that she dint think it would workout because we went too far too soon and to her a lot o the romance was lost. She said shed be willing to try to start over and go out again, but I kinda jut blew her off. It irritated me because It wasn't an impulse fvck. Shed been sending me nude pics for a couple weeks and was all into it. She mentioned just getting out of a 13 year relationship and that dating was still weird to her and that she was at fault for letting things go far so soon. Seemed to me like she felt like a slvt afterwards (even asked as we were fvcking if I would like her less now) and since she genuinely wanted a long term relationship she didn't think it would work anymore
 

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It's post # 2,300!!!

Judge nismo on the case.

1. She wanted sex at the moment. Be glad she decided to have it with you.

2. She has other options (all women do BTW) and she decided to lay you in an attempt to get a better man's attention or revenge.

3. Buyer's remorse. Most of women's flaking falls into this.

4. Be happy you banged.

5. There's a boyfriend around.

Above all, don't trip over this. (Schwarzenegger Voice) She'll be back.

Case closed.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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