"Blank Mind on Dates? She's Dropping Hints You Keep Missing"

The plates get cleared and the silence lands like a brick. You can feel her waiting. Your brain offers up your commute, your job, the weather — topics that have ended more second dates than bad breath.

Here's what most guys never learn: women hand out free conversational material all night long. Tiny clues about what they actually want to discuss. Catch them and you never run out of things to say — because she's telling you what to say next.

Rule 4 of the "22 Rules" trains your ear to catch every single one.

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strange signals from a girl? advice .. plz

RandomGuy22

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Well me and this girl are talking online, and we have some sexual topics. My birhtday is coming up, and i mentioned how i was practicng a dance for this upcoming talent show thing at school. She says "oh like a lap dance" and i say "i thought only girls could do that" she says "hehe not necessarily :)" . So I say, well my brithday is on friday, how about you give mea lap dance? she says " i think not" i said "really?" she says "yes really". So.. anyway i'm like "you know i'm jus tkidding" she says "yeah i know... I know we joke about this stuff, but sometimes i think that you are taking what i'm saying seriuosly"

To this i responded with "I know exactly where I stand in our 'sexual' relationship", she says "oh really, where's that" I says "well i know we're probably not going to have sex" and i ask her the the same question, (where does she think we stand), she answers with "kind of in that stupid playful stage, i don't see us having sex, but i don't know how i'll feel in a couple of months". BAM.!! this confuses me... why would she say "i don't see us having sex" then say "BUT i don't nkow how i'll feel in a couple months?". Then i asked her if she was waiting till she was married.. she says "if the mood is right, and i'm ready, then sure why not"....

Soooooo my question is obvoiusly... what can i do to make her want to have sex w/ me? (that sounds bad, but i am curious to see if i can seduce her, it'll be fun / good)
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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RaMar

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I interperate the couple of months line as meaning, "Maybe after we go out for a couple of months and I become more comfortable around you I would be ready to have sex with you."

So go for it. Ask her out.
 

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I think she wants get get you, but also doesn't want to look like a slut. Besides, overanalysing gets you no where....
 

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I suggest you two quit with the nonesense bable over the internet and have a couple get to gethers as "friends". Remember to never analyze what a girl says, its that kinda crap that has fooled people into being AFC's in the first place. When you two get together watch for her body language and voice tone. If she is giving you some more than friendly kino then its a good sign. Ingore that bs convo you had, have some get-to-gethers incorparte c/f and kino, and if done well, it will be more like weeks before she will have sex with you rather than months.
 
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My advice- Never save an AIM conversation, letter or e-mail for the purpose of finding out what it means. You're looking over her words. Does NOT work with girls. Girls just say stuff, they have their own special meanings. It is virtually impossible to decipher. And, it changes so it won't be up to date. Basic idea, you'll see it wrong, and it'll be old news by the next day.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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heteropedro

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You know what that convo reminds me of? The convos had with my oneitis. When you said "you know Im jus kiddin right?" you sounded scared and nervous and insecure. You also sounded desperate in that convo. It sounds like your on a friends kind of level and that she might of sqis that because she did not want to hurt yor feelings becasue she new you were being serious when you said you know Im just kidding. But also, I havent checked up on this board in so long so I might not know exactly what Im talking about ;-)
 

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sounds like she could be playing with you. Sometimes chicks will do it for thrills, its like they get off leading other guys on. just be weary bro.
 
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