Hi All,
First a bit about myself, i am in my late twenties, good looking, fit, regular gym goer and in general with out coming personality, if i would rate myself will be between 8/9. Currently i am focused on my studies and I try to ignore women as they have been major distraction to me in the past, and even if someone is putting herself in my orbit i try to avoid any escalations.
The story itself and why it's a very strange to me personally.
Starting my studies which are 4 hours a day/ monday-friday, everything went good, after 2 months i am starting to get close with the colleagues and a particular girl with whom we share a cab when leaving the camp. After few weeks she basically invites herself to my birthday, and i notice her attraction level towards me , not to mention questions about boyfriends, what do you do and etc. We went few other times in mixed companies, had a good time, but didn't hook up, i presumed it's due to the social credibility. After some time i decided to give it a shot as I grew fond of her, and started to pay much more attention to her, i invited her out and she willingly accepted. We hooked-up, ended at my place, but didn't escalate further as she blocked all of my advances. Everything went smoothly and we had few more dates, at which point I was told that due to some reasons (realistic ones, i prefer not to disclose them) she will not be able to have sex in the next few months. To which i responded that it might be an issue, but let's see how it goes. After few other dates, she suddenly started backing off, and getting cold, not texting me as before and not engaging in conversations and etc. I did try to make a date 2-3 times, which were all rejected without any suggestions to postpone, and on the last attempt she let me know that at the current moment of her life she is really busy and wants to focus on her studies.(basically telling me to stop pursuing and to leave her alone, most probably because i over pursued and invited her on 3 dates in 2 weeks, without getting any positive reply.). To which i replied that it's fine and if she wants to grab a drink sometime, to give me a call. that was about 2 weeks ago. After that we didn't have any communication outside the campus itself, and i am playing it cool, as much as it didn't affect me in any way, not ignoring her, but short chit chats if we are meeting somewhere around the campus, but I am not going out of my way to specifically initiate any contact. Had a hookup with another chick from campus, but didn't get in touch with her, funny story she knew what was going on between me and the first girl, what will be the effect of that?
The funny part to me is that I have been and I can get better women than her, yet still apparently i emotionally invested myself into this too much. The stupid story starts to have affect on my studies and i am wondering what the **** is happening to me. I have other chicks circling around, but maybe the fact that she blew me off in such a way, made a huge obsession in me. I consider myself a semi red pilled man, with medium understanding of women and how they function. I know that it's no use to wonder what might have changed suddenly her behavior as it might be endless of possibilities, but yet I feel emotionally drained and ****ed up. I am not sure if I should made another move, just to get totally rejected or next her? (except the small chit chats) Not sure what to do now, as my ****ed up ego and investments are hurting and hoping that in few weeks she will get in touch with me. The other strange thing is that I didn't even fkd her, yet i am so invested how is that ****ing possible? Should I get out and get as much other chicks as I can? What would you do in this situation?
First a bit about myself, i am in my late twenties, good looking, fit, regular gym goer and in general with out coming personality, if i would rate myself will be between 8/9. Currently i am focused on my studies and I try to ignore women as they have been major distraction to me in the past, and even if someone is putting herself in my orbit i try to avoid any escalations.
The story itself and why it's a very strange to me personally.
Starting my studies which are 4 hours a day/ monday-friday, everything went good, after 2 months i am starting to get close with the colleagues and a particular girl with whom we share a cab when leaving the camp. After few weeks she basically invites herself to my birthday, and i notice her attraction level towards me , not to mention questions about boyfriends, what do you do and etc. We went few other times in mixed companies, had a good time, but didn't hook up, i presumed it's due to the social credibility. After some time i decided to give it a shot as I grew fond of her, and started to pay much more attention to her, i invited her out and she willingly accepted. We hooked-up, ended at my place, but didn't escalate further as she blocked all of my advances. Everything went smoothly and we had few more dates, at which point I was told that due to some reasons (realistic ones, i prefer not to disclose them) she will not be able to have sex in the next few months. To which i responded that it might be an issue, but let's see how it goes. After few other dates, she suddenly started backing off, and getting cold, not texting me as before and not engaging in conversations and etc. I did try to make a date 2-3 times, which were all rejected without any suggestions to postpone, and on the last attempt she let me know that at the current moment of her life she is really busy and wants to focus on her studies.(basically telling me to stop pursuing and to leave her alone, most probably because i over pursued and invited her on 3 dates in 2 weeks, without getting any positive reply.). To which i replied that it's fine and if she wants to grab a drink sometime, to give me a call. that was about 2 weeks ago. After that we didn't have any communication outside the campus itself, and i am playing it cool, as much as it didn't affect me in any way, not ignoring her, but short chit chats if we are meeting somewhere around the campus, but I am not going out of my way to specifically initiate any contact. Had a hookup with another chick from campus, but didn't get in touch with her, funny story she knew what was going on between me and the first girl, what will be the effect of that?
The funny part to me is that I have been and I can get better women than her, yet still apparently i emotionally invested myself into this too much. The stupid story starts to have affect on my studies and i am wondering what the **** is happening to me. I have other chicks circling around, but maybe the fact that she blew me off in such a way, made a huge obsession in me. I consider myself a semi red pilled man, with medium understanding of women and how they function. I know that it's no use to wonder what might have changed suddenly her behavior as it might be endless of possibilities, but yet I feel emotionally drained and ****ed up. I am not sure if I should made another move, just to get totally rejected or next her? (except the small chit chats) Not sure what to do now, as my ****ed up ego and investments are hurting and hoping that in few weeks she will get in touch with me. The other strange thing is that I didn't even fkd her, yet i am so invested how is that ****ing possible? Should I get out and get as much other chicks as I can? What would you do in this situation?