"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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I was talking to this chick and then she became unreachable about two weeks ago. I left her one message, she didn't call back and I didn't try her again. This morning this was in my email.
Not sure how to handle this. She's hot, but at the same time I don't appreciate the flakey behavior at all.


"Hola....I just was thinking about you today for some reason and wanted to say hi. I hope you have recoved well from the weekend in Atlanta. So...since I'm not nearly as clever as you I'll just ask you...when are we going hiking? Or, when are we going anything? I think eithered be lovely. "

Advice please. I'd still love to do something with her, but damn. I mean should I put off getting back to her?
 

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She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

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The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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ok so no advice from you guys. this is what i replied with. i mean i can either wait a few days and let the games continue or get them over with now.

"What a surprise to hear from you. I actually thought that you went into Internet Retirement. Then I realized that your only 23 and need to be 25 to do that. Your question is when are we going to hang out? I don't know, with your recent disappearance your stock has almost bottomed out.

Well you wanna go hiking? It starts with returning a phone call. I went 10 miles last weekend like I had planned and I'm going to Florida for a long one this weekend. If you wanna do something on the weekend of the 19th I'm game. We can talk about it more on the phone after you refer to step one on how to go hiking. Hiking, dinner and hanging out with me is what I'm offering. That's usually the jackpot for the Georgia lottery so I consider that a damn good deal. "
 

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Only thing I don't like:

Well you wanna go hiking? It starts with returning a phone call.
Imo this shows you're a little upset with her not calling. But then the rest of the mail is C&F. You are telling her your life is not on hold cuz she hasn't returned your call. Sounds pretty okay with me.

I am pretty sure however that she is trying to see if she can reel you back in after not answering your call for 2 weeks. My advice would be: Be careful and watch her actions closely.
 

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I'm not upset at all actually. I was just telling her that would be a start b/c I made the last call.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Okay: let me put it this way: If I think that says you're upset, NewMan thinks you're upset.. wouldn't she think you're upset?

It comes off a little bitter. Maybe you didn't mean it like that, it just comes off that way. But like I said: the rest of the mail was C&F so you probably shouldn't think too much about it.
 

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I think your reply was perfect. You let her know that you don't tolerate disrespect and that it doesn't bother you that much. Way to hold your head up and be a man. Don't invest too much time in this girl when she's not investing too much time in you.



PIMP
 

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thanks caveman. we'll see what happens and i'll post it to this thread. she is either going to tell me to f.o. or appoligize and go with me. if she goes i'm sure it'll be a good night in the end. she did tell me that she dated a guy for 5 years that was an a$$hole so i'm sure this is right up her alley.
 

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I also agree with Caveman on this one. You
do sound a little upset or annoyed, and as he says, be careful.
 

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Who cares. I wrote this chick off anyway. If she wants to pick it up with me it is her that is going to have to do some work.

I also think that the way you read things is a reflection on the way you are used to people talking to you. Me, I'm a pretty confident person. A bit narcistic, so I would read that as a road map on how to hang out with me. To me it's more of an underlying message about respecting me. And the way that you do that is by meeting me in the middle.
 

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Originally posted by Disco
Who cares. I wrote this chick off anyway. If she wants to pick it up with me it is her that is going to have to do some work.

I also think that the way you read things is a reflection on the way you are used to people talking to you. Me, I'm a pretty confident person. A bit narcistic, so I would read that as a road map on how to hang out with me. To me it's more of an underlying message about respecting me. And the way that you do that is by meeting me in the middle.
that's the right attitude. email her back and agree, but she has to come to your place, not meet at some place.
 

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Thats ****y, but the funny is absent.

I agree with being a bit smug with her, but with that reply I don't think you've really provided her with any reason to look forward to your next get together. Keep it more light hearted. It should come across like you're teasing her, not scolding her.
 

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Originally posted by Disco
"Hola....I just was thinking about you today for some reason and wanted to say hi.
Bull**** this chick is used to idiots leaving her 873324 messages and now because you stood your ground, you shock her.


The hunted will become the hunter !!!!!!!!!
 

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Thanks for all the input. Just two years ago I would've never of handle it like this. I do think some of it is funny, she knows my sense of humor but has pushed to the stern side until now. She'll call come over and I'll get ladi within the next 10 days tops.
 
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Write, "Were you in a coma for the past few weeks? I'm glad you recovered and have the strength to go hiking - give me a call so that I know that this is you writing this e-mail and not an imposter!"
 

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