"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Ok, shes about HB8 in my books. We goto college together, ive introduced myself, ive only known her for about a week or so... Now the problem is, shes really laid back. Weirdly laid back. Kinda like, we'll be walkin past each other in the corridor, and ill pass a 'heyy.. how u doin?', and the reply'll consists of raised eye brows and a half smile. Now at this point u'd think she really wasnt interested as she isnt really giving out any IOI's right? :confused: Naa, after college we'll randomly see each other and she'll stop to talk to me. I even made her laugh! Ill proceed to ignore her for a coupla days so as not to make it obvious that im interested. But then the whole process'll repeat. Conversation wavers between interesting, and deadly boring on her part. But shes a challenge and real hot, so I need advice on gettin her number. Help me out guys! What am i doing wrong/right? What do i do next?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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There are no leagues. Everyone plays in the same league. Some are scrubs and some are all-stars, but even all-stars lose, and scrubs can become all-stars with practice.

I read this on here somewhere, and it is SO true
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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What are you doing wrong???

How about asking for her number, numbnuts.
 

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There are no leagues. Everyone plays in the same league. Some are scrubs and some are all-stars, but even all-stars lose, and scrubs can become all-stars with practice.
I've heard that before too, and it might surprise you to know that I agree completely. We all play in the same league in the long run... but as you start talking about shorter and shorter time intervals this quote doesn't really apply.

MrGold, I'm not doubting your potential. I think you are perfectly CAPABLE of picking up this girl. What I am doubting is your current understanding of your own potential. Based upon your post I don't think you have enough experience or knowledge to close this girl.

Lets get real... it's been a week and you've only managed to make her laugh once after multiple encounters? You have to evoke a lot more emotion than that to get anywhere man.
 

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HandyAndy said:
No one is out of anyones league, you just suck at pickup.
Wher tf do you get the balls mate? Mrgold is asking for help, he is still on the road 2 learnin the basics... your post can actually make him give up altogether. Just remember you were an AFC at one point!


As for your post mrgold, i suggest you read the bible and do not hesitate to keep asking for help as we are all your brothers! Most importantly DONT GIVE UP! Good luck :up:
 

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Ok understood, I'm still new to SS so ive not exactly perfected any techniques yet. I was hoping someone would tell me what the hell to do instead of tellin me i suck at pick-up!! Ive actually managed to get 5#'s in the past coupla weeks, and a date on monday (tomorrow). I appreciate your input Telos, I mean I know im capable of pickin her up, but im not really sure how to do it because ive never come across a situation like this before? Any suggestions would be appreciated.
 

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You need to escalate conversation to the point where she is actually vibing you and feeling your emotion / energy. When you see her next, enthusiastically greet her to signal a stronger opening. Your goal should be to prevent things from getting boring... and simultaneously to show her that you have something to offer other men don't. You need to demonstrate (and ideally actually have) value. Why should she know you?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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