"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Strange but dam beautiful girl..

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Ok, shes about HB8 in my books. We goto college together, ive introduced myself, ive only known her for about a week or so... Now the problem is, shes really laid back. Weirdly laid back. Kinda like, we'll be walkin past each other in the corridor, and ill pass a 'heyy.. how u doin?', and the reply'll consists of raised eye brows and a half smile. Now at this point u'd think she really wasnt interested as she isnt really giving out any IOI's right? :confused: Naa, after college we'll randomly see each other and she'll stop to talk to me. I even made her laugh! Ill proceed to ignore her for a coupla days so as not to make it obvious that im interested. But then the whole process'll repeat. Conversation wavers between interesting, and deadly boring on her part. But shes a challenge and real hot, so I need advice on gettin her number. Help me out guys! What am i doing wrong/right? What do i do next?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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There are no leagues. Everyone plays in the same league. Some are scrubs and some are all-stars, but even all-stars lose, and scrubs can become all-stars with practice.

I read this on here somewhere, and it is SO true
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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What are you doing wrong???

How about asking for her number, numbnuts.
 

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There are no leagues. Everyone plays in the same league. Some are scrubs and some are all-stars, but even all-stars lose, and scrubs can become all-stars with practice.
I've heard that before too, and it might surprise you to know that I agree completely. We all play in the same league in the long run... but as you start talking about shorter and shorter time intervals this quote doesn't really apply.

MrGold, I'm not doubting your potential. I think you are perfectly CAPABLE of picking up this girl. What I am doubting is your current understanding of your own potential. Based upon your post I don't think you have enough experience or knowledge to close this girl.

Lets get real... it's been a week and you've only managed to make her laugh once after multiple encounters? You have to evoke a lot more emotion than that to get anywhere man.
 

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HandyAndy said:
No one is out of anyones league, you just suck at pickup.
Wher tf do you get the balls mate? Mrgold is asking for help, he is still on the road 2 learnin the basics... your post can actually make him give up altogether. Just remember you were an AFC at one point!


As for your post mrgold, i suggest you read the bible and do not hesitate to keep asking for help as we are all your brothers! Most importantly DONT GIVE UP! Good luck :up:
 

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Ok understood, I'm still new to SS so ive not exactly perfected any techniques yet. I was hoping someone would tell me what the hell to do instead of tellin me i suck at pick-up!! Ive actually managed to get 5#'s in the past coupla weeks, and a date on monday (tomorrow). I appreciate your input Telos, I mean I know im capable of pickin her up, but im not really sure how to do it because ive never come across a situation like this before? Any suggestions would be appreciated.
 

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You need to escalate conversation to the point where she is actually vibing you and feeling your emotion / energy. When you see her next, enthusiastically greet her to signal a stronger opening. Your goal should be to prevent things from getting boring... and simultaneously to show her that you have something to offer other men don't. You need to demonstrate (and ideally actually have) value. Why should she know you?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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