Eh. I remember loads of nice chats and completely awful (not kidding) chats for years tbh. Remember better the ones that lead to a plate or girlfriend scenario.But, come to think of it, you are right, a nice chat will probably get anchored as a memory and be associated with a place when you go to the same place or area at a later time. However, I find the shelf-life for nice chats are usually a few days. They aren't really long memories like that.
But even if its odd, is it a validating experience? It's also odd to win the lottery but people, who buy tickets, desire that odd outcome, which is why they are buying it.That is an odd scenario. Seems like if she had convulsions on the bus there would be someone there to call for medical attention. A little strange for a woman to ask a complete stranger for a ride, although people did loads of hitchhiking back in the 60s and 70s when I was growing up.
I was dressed poorly with just a sweated up t-shirt and short-pants that comes with a large bike inside my car. I was definitely no cop. Maybe I felt validated by her wanting to be a passenger in my car because of how badly I was dressed or smelled and how my car looked like inside and interpreted that as random love from a stranger lady or something, who knows.zekko said:I'm not saying she was a prostitute, but if she was and suspected you might be a cop, maybe she was hoping for you to suggest something along the lines of "If you need a ride, maybe we can work something out". That way the suggestion wouldn't be coming from her (although I don't even know if that makes a difference legally - sounds like entrapment though).
Good idea. More chats with nice women means more great memories and you might accidentally get a plate or girlfriend, the type of accident I wouldn't mind happening.Eh. I remember loads of nice chats and completely awful (not kidding) chats for years tbh. Remember better the ones that lead to a plate or girlfriend scenario.
There are long-term memories like that which I wouldn't begrudge anyone, except that I reckon you should do that with a load more and keep moving forwards. Or otherwise be looking for something to learn in this. Seems like you are dwelling somewhat.
Impossible to say without knowing her true motivations. If she really was in need, she might have thought you looked like a nice guy or a trustworthy person. Which some people here would say is a bad thing, you should look like a dangerous alpha.But even if its odd, is it a validating experience?
I guess we will never know. Nothing ventured, nothing gained. I took the easy route and choose a memory of what could have been rather than testing a situation that could have turned dangerous for me or where I could have lost my grip in life (at least in the level of staying out of "real" trouble) if I got involved with the likes of her.Impossible to say without knowing her true motivations.
Yeah, I mean if your fantasies came true, would you really want to get involved with a girl who approaches strange men for a ride when she could have just as easily taken the bus?I could have lost my grip in life (at least in the level of staying out of "real" trouble) if I got involved with the likes of her.
We would have to break-up if she continued doing that of course. You have to set relationship boundaries early on when you are seeing someone, otherwise you'll be a doormat and women would walk all over you and lose respect.Yeah, I mean if your fantasies came true, would you really want to get involved with a girl who approaches strange men for a ride when she could have just as easily taken the bus?
Yea. Heck old has led to robberies down here as well. When I go on old dates I'm packing heat always. Never know if it's a set up.In this day and age, you can't trust anybody. For all you know she could have robbed you. It's nice that you gave her the 20.
There you are. Maybe use the compassionate moment you had with a stranger as inspiration to meet new people.Good idea. More chats with nice women means more great memories and you might accidentally get a plate or girlfriend, the type of accident I wouldn't mind happening.
She had convulsions on the bus heading down to the city, or I think the story went. She looked normal other than the fact she looked like she had a running nose and had allot of tissues around to blow her nose.A girl approached you looking sick and saying she was having convulsions?
I'm not sure what she would do with the $ 20.00, probably buy bus/train tickets to get back to Newmarket. The money would have been enough for that. I still think its inadequate if her story was true, but not knowing, and being on the spot at the time, this looked like the best compromise to functionally deal with the situation. I did stick around to see what she was doing just before I left (i.e. to see if she would approach other strangers the same way, of if another guy/people showed up around her), but just saw her there by herself in the lot. I was too tensed up at the moment.Bokanovsky said:Maybe I’m missing something but why not call 911? What is she going to do with your $20? Buy herself anti-convulsion medication?
I'm not thinking about it as intently as you portrayed here. It's merely a nice summer memory. I'm trying to decipher why it's a nice memory because it's now feeling like she did me a favour by approaching me, at the particular time she did, and now there is a nice memory.The reason it probably has so much staying power is that you are thinking this is a missed opportunity for something you are lacking in life. Go get the thing you are lacking qnd you will laugh when you look back on this situation.
Claiming incel sounds like a cop out to me.In terms of getting the thing that I'm lacking, if I'm "incel", then by definition, it's unfair to suggest to get the thing that I'm lacking, or I would not be incel/nearcel in the first place. But, I'll spare that discussion for this thread. Maybe this is an "incel-thing", or "incel-memory", or "incel-fantasy".... maybe it's that then.
Claiming incel sounds like a cop out to me.
What are you afraid of? Why not just go meet chicks and get their attention/sex?
I'm not "choosing" to stay that way. What actions do you think can change my life?GrowingPains said:'Unfair'... life isn't fair. "Life's lead me somewhere unexpected.. it's 6 degrees out here, I'm underdressed. But no one gives a fvck, you gotta get the mother fvcker in" - David Goggins
How can you be an incel if you acknowledge that you are and choose to stay that way? I think they call that a volcel, voluntary celibate. You are literally choosing to be an 'incel'. We all have choices to make. And we have control in every situation. Stop letting your mind convince you that you're some inferior cuck and take the actions to change your life.
Skimmed 1st and 4th page. That doesn't seem to be the case. They said approach and told you how not to be creepy. Sounds like a green light to me.Most advice is do not try to meet girls period. I'm serious. People in that thead telling me to stay away from women!
How many women have you approached in the past month? How many women, also in the past month, have you wanted to approach and not done it because you hesitated/made up an excuse?I'm not "choosing" to stay that way. What actions do you think can change my life?