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Honestly you are coming off slightly mentally wierd and i dont think ill be reading your threads anymore. Bye
That will save me from bothering to press the ignore button from your toxic posts to my thread.
 
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But, come to think of it, you are right, a nice chat will probably get anchored as a memory and be associated with a place when you go to the same place or area at a later time. However, I find the shelf-life for nice chats are usually a few days. They aren't really long memories like that.
Eh. I remember loads of nice chats and completely awful (not kidding) chats for years tbh. Remember better the ones that lead to a plate or girlfriend scenario.

There are long-term memories like that which I wouldn't begrudge anyone, except that I reckon you should do that with a load more and keep moving forwards. Or otherwise be looking for something to learn in this. Seems like you are dwelling somewhat.
 

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That is an odd scenario. Seems like if she had convulsions on the bus there would be someone there to call for medical attention. A little strange for a woman to ask a complete stranger for a ride, although people did loads of hitchhiking back in the 60s and 70s when I was growing up.
But even if its odd, is it a validating experience? It's also odd to win the lottery but people, who buy tickets, desire that odd outcome, which is why they are buying it.

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I'm not saying she was a prostitute, but if she was and suspected you might be a cop, maybe she was hoping for you to suggest something along the lines of "If you need a ride, maybe we can work something out". That way the suggestion wouldn't be coming from her (although I don't even know if that makes a difference legally - sounds like entrapment though).
I was dressed poorly with just a sweated up t-shirt and short-pants that comes with a large bike inside my car. I was definitely no cop. Maybe I felt validated by her wanting to be a passenger in my car because of how badly I was dressed or smelled and how my car looked like inside and interpreted that as random love from a stranger lady or something, who knows.
 

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Eh. I remember loads of nice chats and completely awful (not kidding) chats for years tbh. Remember better the ones that lead to a plate or girlfriend scenario.

There are long-term memories like that which I wouldn't begrudge anyone, except that I reckon you should do that with a load more and keep moving forwards. Or otherwise be looking for something to learn in this. Seems like you are dwelling somewhat.
Good idea. More chats with nice women means more great memories and you might accidentally get a plate or girlfriend, the type of accident I wouldn't mind happening.
 

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But even if its odd, is it a validating experience?
Impossible to say without knowing her true motivations. If she really was in need, she might have thought you looked like a nice guy or a trustworthy person. Which some people here would say is a bad thing, you should look like a dangerous alpha.
 
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Impossible to say without knowing her true motivations.
I guess we will never know. Nothing ventured, nothing gained. I took the easy route and choose a memory of what could have been rather than testing a situation that could have turned dangerous for me or where I could have lost my grip in life (at least in the level of staying out of "real" trouble) if I got involved with the likes of her.
 

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I could have lost my grip in life (at least in the level of staying out of "real" trouble) if I got involved with the likes of her.
Yeah, I mean if your fantasies came true, would you really want to get involved with a girl who approaches strange men for a ride when she could have just as easily taken the bus?
 

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Yeah, I mean if your fantasies came true, would you really want to get involved with a girl who approaches strange men for a ride when she could have just as easily taken the bus?
We would have to break-up if she continued doing that of course. You have to set relationship boundaries early on when you are seeing someone, otherwise you'll be a doormat and women would walk all over you and lose respect.
 
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A girl approached you looking sick and saying she was having convulsions? Maybe I’m missing something but why not call 911? What is she going to do with your $20? Buy herself anti-convulsion medication?
 

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I think you might have just avoided a false rape scam.... In this day and age, what rational woman would get in a car with a random guy....?????....

This situation doesnt seem right....
 
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Corrector, my G.....

You gotta let this one go man. It's just a memory. And you're only solidifying it's shelf life by thinking about it so hard. We remember all kinds of random stuff for no particular reason at all.
If you're truly curious, see a licensed professional. None of us can help you realize why you keep thinking about her.

It's not that important anyways. You're speculating at this point and the speculation isn't helping you. You're not going to move past it by speculating and you're not going to get any women via further reflection.

So just drop it and keep living life. It will fade or it won't. The reason it probably has so much staying power is that you are thinking this is a missed opportunity for something you are lacking in life. Go get the thing you are lacking qnd you will laugh when you look back on this situation.
 

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In this day and age, you can't trust anybody. For all you know she could have robbed you. It's nice that you gave her the 20.
Yea. Heck old has led to robberies down here as well. When I go on old dates I'm packing heat always. Never know if it's a set up.

That 20 bucks could be used towards a dinner date.
 

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Good idea. More chats with nice women means more great memories and you might accidentally get a plate or girlfriend, the type of accident I wouldn't mind happening.
There you are. Maybe use the compassionate moment you had with a stranger as inspiration to meet new people.

Watch out for yourself a bit though. Seem like a good guy.
 

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A girl approached you looking sick and saying she was having convulsions?
She had convulsions on the bus heading down to the city, or I think the story went. She looked normal other than the fact she looked like she had a running nose and had allot of tissues around to blow her nose.

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Maybe I’m missing something but why not call 911? What is she going to do with your $20? Buy herself anti-convulsion medication?
I'm not sure what she would do with the $ 20.00, probably buy bus/train tickets to get back to Newmarket. The money would have been enough for that. I still think its inadequate if her story was true, but not knowing, and being on the spot at the time, this looked like the best compromise to functionally deal with the situation. I did stick around to see what she was doing just before I left (i.e. to see if she would approach other strangers the same way, of if another guy/people showed up around her), but just saw her there by herself in the lot. I was too tensed up at the moment.
 

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The reason it probably has so much staying power is that you are thinking this is a missed opportunity for something you are lacking in life. Go get the thing you are lacking qnd you will laugh when you look back on this situation.
I'm not thinking about it as intently as you portrayed here. It's merely a nice summer memory. I'm trying to decipher why it's a nice memory because it's now feeling like she did me a favour by approaching me, at the particular time she did, and now there is a nice memory.

I think that something happened in the outdoor gym/bike trail that put me off balance emotionally. I saw a older guy and hot girl sitting together on a chair adjacent to mine and just felt bad that stuff like that never happens to me. It appeared they just met from online dating or something. I was sitting there taking a rest from the trail ride and then I just couldn't take sitting near those two people, and just left my bike and bag and started working-out (as other people were), in this outdoor gym. They had pull-up bars, tricep, bi-cept, all sorts of bars and that got my mind off of that. I then rode back on the trail after the workout but noticed I left my stuff on the chair and feel that lapse of judgment was due to feeling off balance emotionally because of incelness.

It was during this particular state of mind I met this girl at the bank which basically reset my whole mind from the previous bad feeling. I went from feeling bad to feeling great after seeing her like magic.

This is why I've said on previous posts that I feel there was some emotional or mental imbalance that was tornadic, that came out of that particular trail ride/outdoor gym and that "couple", and, if there are "laws of attraction" in the universe, it's quite possible I could have inadvertently attracted her into my reality in order to balance myself out. For this to happen, there would have to be something tornadic to the point of a mild shock or disturbance, it can't just be a low-grade comfortable state of incelness but a highly intense incel shock.

The fact it's a nice memory means that something "good" happened with me in that whole interaction.

In terms of getting the thing that I'm lacking, if I'm "incel", then by definition, it's unfair to suggest to get the thing that I'm lacking, or I would not be incel/nearcel in the first place. But, I'll spare that discussion for this thread. Maybe this is an "incel-thing", or "incel-memory", or "incel-fantasy".... maybe it's that then.
 
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Yea. Heck old has led to robberies down here as well. When I go on old dates I'm packing heat always. Never know if it's a set up.

That 20 bucks could be used towards a dinner date.
 

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In terms of getting the thing that I'm lacking, if I'm "incel", then by definition, it's unfair to suggest to get the thing that I'm lacking, or I would not be incel/nearcel in the first place. But, I'll spare that discussion for this thread. Maybe this is an "incel-thing", or "incel-memory", or "incel-fantasy".... maybe it's that then.
Claiming incel sounds like a cop out to me.

What are you afraid of? Why not just go meet chicks and get their attention/sex?

'Unfair'... life isn't fair. "Life's lead me somewhere unexpected.. it's 6 degrees out here, I'm underdressed. But no one gives a fvck, you gotta get the mother fvcker in" - David Goggins

How can you be an incel if you acknowledge that you are and choose to stay that way? I think they call that a volcel, voluntary celibate. You are literally choosing to be an 'incel'. We all have choices to make. And we have control in every situation. Stop letting your mind convince you that you're some inferior cuck and take the actions to change your life.

Or just keep speculating on the internet and hoping things will change. Maybe that will get you to not being an incel one day.

Which route has more probability of success? Idk, you tell me.
 

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Claiming incel sounds like a cop out to me.

What are you afraid of? Why not just go meet chicks and get their attention/sex?

Here is a thread I wrote earlier about my experiences meeting chicks at the Gym:
https://www.sosuave.net/forum/threads/i-get-rejected-at-the-gym.260795/

Most advice is do not try to meet girls period. I'm serious. People in that thead telling me to stay away from women!

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'Unfair'... life isn't fair. "Life's lead me somewhere unexpected.. it's 6 degrees out here, I'm underdressed. But no one gives a fvck, you gotta get the mother fvcker in" - David Goggins

How can you be an incel if you acknowledge that you are and choose to stay that way? I think they call that a volcel, voluntary celibate. You are literally choosing to be an 'incel'. We all have choices to make. And we have control in every situation. Stop letting your mind convince you that you're some inferior cuck and take the actions to change your life.
I'm not "choosing" to stay that way. What actions do you think can change my life?
 

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Most advice is do not try to meet girls period. I'm serious. People in that thead telling me to stay away from women!
Skimmed 1st and 4th page. That doesn't seem to be the case. They said approach and told you how not to be creepy. Sounds like a green light to me.

I'm not "choosing" to stay that way. What actions do you think can change my life?
How many women have you approached in the past month? How many women, also in the past month, have you wanted to approach and not done it because you hesitated/made up an excuse?
 

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How many women have you approached in the past month? How many women, also in the past month, have you wanted to approach and not done it because you hesitated/made up an excuse?
Do lady cashiers count as approaches when you are buying stuff?
 
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