"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Stories of Failure

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We learn from our past mistakes, and looking back I've made quite a few. So why don't we all post some stories of failure and laugh at why, for whatever reason, we didn't seal the deal. Maybe we'll all learn something and remember this post when we're in a similar situation. There's one that sticks out in my mind as a complete failure.

I was at a party that was semi-sausage fest, seeing as how there were like 5 girls, 20 guys. Those are the worst, because you get 15 guys going after 1 girl; there's a competition, and fates can change quickly. I invested time in this party to this one certain girl I thought would be a nice fit for my ****. I wasn't really trying too hard, just dropping hints when I chatted with her in the basement.

Anyway, I left to see what was going on upstairs, took a seat in the living room couch, and who should follow but the girl I was just hitting on. My arm was already extended, she sat into it, it was all good. I had her worked up for a good hour or two; we smoked a bong, went back downstairs, took a few pictures of me and her and my friend and her friend, and then about a half hour later a friend of mine swoops in and takes her right off my hands. Basically, I got her horny and worked up, we were all drunk, my friend came in and took her.

My problem that night? Isolation. I took far too long to isolate this girl, and thus got served by my friend. The worst part about it was I had just neatly trimmed my hair (it went from halfway down my back to shaved) was feeling confident and pretty laid back and was slowly reeling this girl in. But my more experienced friend ****ed me over. He hits that **** every day now, since they're going out.

Funny thing is, they both went upstairs together that night, and my friend left real early, like 6 o' clock early. This girl tried getting my attention in the morning, following me when I brought the conversation to another room, but I didn't want to talk to her, didn't want anything from her. She made a firm decision to ditch me so its not like I'm gonna go in for sloppy seconds and go right back to her. She said "Nice to meet you" and gave me a hug when she was leaving, but I didn't hug her back and just said "Yea, whatever." I don't need girls like that ****ing with me. She didn't deserve my attention the next day, and I didn't give it to her.

Anyone else have any stories of failure they've learned from?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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We've all failed at least once.....But, failing is what makes you "understand" more.
 

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Originally posted by DJ4Real
We've all failed at least once.....But, failing is what makes you "understand" more.
Makes you stronger too...u do learn from it as well, like DJ4Real was inferring.

As for my failure storied, do u want one from the:
-"Never had a chance" department
-"Girl gave too many misleading signals" department
-"Girl says yes, but changes her mind in under 24 hours" department.
-"Girl thinks I am a stalker despite that I hardly see her, then discover that she is the one with problems" department.

Now I am probably not going into any of these stories (I would describe everything and it would take a while), but I have "failed" in various ways in terms of askig girls out, as you can see.

You'll be fine - next time, just stand up tp your friend if he comes in and goes for the steal. Don't let him try any of that sh*t on u.
 

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This was a good 3 or 4 months ago. The meaning of this thread was to just share stories to either A) showcase what you did wrong, and perhaps warn others of your mistake so they won't be as likely to make the same one or B) to tell stories and perhaps get some tips on what you did do wrong, provided you don't already know.

The moral of my story, for example, was never take too long to isolate a drunken, horny girl when you are at a party with only 4 or 5 ladies and two dozen dudes.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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my story of failure is a weeklong relationship... whjen i first came here i read the whole bible and learned that slightly ignoring girls worked wonders because you played hard to get and whatnot... so this girl was really into me cause of that, we started going out, but i never realized that i was allowed to take breaks from the hard to get mentality... she called me up cause i didnt talk to her for 3 days and simply stated "you never talk to me... do you even like me... im gonna save you the trouble and just end it here" i was speechless but decided to laugh because maybe, just maybe, she was kidding. lol... nope... she hates my guts to this very day... so in short... once a girl is your gf... theres no need to play hard to get so hard anymore
 
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One time when I really thought Ihad all the advice in a handbasket, I approached a 2 set. built rapport. Got them to drive us around.

Earlier that day, me and my friend found this really bad ass spot on some strangers land. It was like a pond and an island at the same time.

We took these girls there and after 20 minutes of chillin I straight asked "You guys wanna f*ck?

OHH How too straight forward I was.
 

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Originally posted by Dimebag_Darrell

We took these girls there and after 20 minutes of chillin I straight asked "You guys wanna f*ck?

Hehe!

What did they say??

Might have worked if you said it like a joke ;)


I kinda said the same thing to a girl.

She was my girlfriend for about 2 weeks, and I just started asking her to have sex, in a very serious tone! I was not fuking joking! Man what an afc I was! And that was my hottest girlfriend ever! I still think about her!
:down:

We broke up soon after that.
 
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umm I said "Wanna have sex?"

I mean, I guess it wasn't a total failiure because although i didn't get laid she held my hand and kissed me on the way back to the car and then when I got out of their car at the end of the night we made out but it wasn't a success because I lied about my age.

She was like 23 and I was barely 18 and I said I was 24. They found us out somehow and told me never to call back..I kind of just chuckled about it..

Don't drink MD 20/20 and expect to come out alive.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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So you decide to boost your age up about 6 years? why?
 
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Because how the hell these older girls gonna wanna **** some dudes from high school? It was cool though.

You don't always have to be truthful to get sum puss.
 

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Originally posted by Dimebag_Darrell
Because how the hell these older girls gonna wanna **** some dudes from high school? It was cool though.

You don't always have to be truthful to get sum puss.
Which is true....most of us lie about something. Honesty is more attractive to women though.
 

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f***** sucks. now that ive thought about it i'd say i coulda had 2-3 lays in the past year and about 4 #'s jus last week. i really am a dumba$$ at times. but u live and u learn

au revoir
 

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Ok i'm going to talk about 2 different approaches. 1 is when i didn't know about DJing or PUA and 2nd one is when i only knew about DJing.

1. The Nervous Breakdown
Was in a kfc once and so this girl I know that work there wanted me to bring this food to this girl. So i turn around seeing her and didn't even notice she was pretty looked about a hb8. So I was like ok so i go sit down. I checked her out she look nice but i then begin to get so nervous that i was shaking lol. Couldn't eat infront of her i was too scared lol. She was nice and relaxed i was there shaking like if i needed more crack. Asked her dumb stuff like what is your name giving her so much IOIs. Felt like a real ass i just ejected cause i was shaking too much she even asked me why i so nervous.

God if only i knew what i knew now i would have gamed the hell out of her and she might have been sleeping in my tent right now.

2. The Scientific reason (I knew about DJing)
Walking around with some of my friends during school. See some girl with a nice ass walking (we didn't see her face yet) so were like who the hell is that. We go down there they start acting stupid. So we walk over there and i just go lay on the locker talking to her. did typical things that i was told to do from here.

Me: Hi
Her: Hi
Me: Your new here
Her: Ya
Me: Your a freshmen right
Her: Ya

*Wtf is this some kind of interview where was the kino wtf*

Me: So what class you got now
Her: I don't know just started today
Me: O really where did you come from
Her: Florida
Me: Cool how was it down there
Her: It was ok
Me: Let me see your program
*reading her program*
Me: hb7.5
Her: Yep
Me: Well i'm bout to go let me get your number i'll call you sometime
Her: Na

*Eject*

Everyone wanted to know wat happened.

After that i started reading about MM and other posts and learned wtf happened. I was now able to breakdown wat went wrong in my approaches.

1. Said hi
2. Bodylanguage was coming across as needy
3. Tryed to gain rapport which telegraphed interest
4. Barely or if any didn't do no C&F
5. skipped attraction part of the game
6. didn't DHV
7. She gave no IOIs
8. From when i said hi didn't really show good Bodylanguage
9. Barely held eye contact only when i came up to her she was kinda smiling
10. Went for the number kinda quick we were only talking for about 10mins
11. Needy and Desperate

Countless others but those were the main things
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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What does DHV & IOI stand for?
 

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Originally posted by Distant Light

1. Said hi
2. Bodylanguage was coming across as needy
3. Tryed to gain rapport which telegraphed interest
4. Barely or if any didn't do no C&F
5. skipped attraction part of the game
6. didn't DHV
7. She gave no IOIs
8. From when i said hi didn't really show good Bodylanguage
9. Barely held eye contact only when i came up to her she was kinda smiling
10. Went for the number kinda quick we were only talking for about 10mins
11. Needy and Desperate
Why the **** do you need all this things to get a number. You make this look a lot harder then it really is! Maybe this is one of your problems!

But you say that you know a lot more now than then!
:up:
 

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whats MM?

the made to obvious crash and burn :

so i was with my friend who had no prior experience with girls. he had potential, maybe i assumed to much from him. i decide to do an approach with him while we were in the mall. We walk up to 3 girls after deciding that they were the closest and hottest girls at the moment. I begin with

Me: 'my friend and i were bored and decided to see if we could find someone interesting to talk to. do u guys consider urselves interesting?'

them: no

Me: oh, thx for the heads up

my friend: dude u just totally messed that up

right in front of the girls. i stared at him for a moment for a wtf face. needless to say i will never use him as my wingman again.

good times indeed.
 

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Originally posted by Taviii
Why the **** do you need all this things to get a number. You make this look a lot harder then it really is! Maybe this is one of your problems!

But you say that you know a lot more now than then!
:up:
lol it really isn't much if you think about it its just little things i was able to point out that i know messed it up for me. Its not really hard after you learn about all that stuff. It kinda comes natural now


MM stands for - Mystery Method


Mr ballz - THat was a funny story
my friend: "dude u just totally messed that up":D
 

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Originally posted by Distant Light
Ok i'm going to talk about 2 different approaches. 1 is when i didn't know about DJing or PUA and 2nd one is when i only knew about DJing.

1. The Nervous Breakdown
Was in a kfc once and so this girl I know that work there wanted me to bring this food to this girl. So i turn around seeing her and didn't even notice she was pretty looked about a hb8. So I was like ok so i go sit down. I checked her out she look nice but i then begin to get so nervous that i was shaking lol. Couldn't eat infront of her i was too scared lol. She was nice and relaxed i was there shaking like if i needed more crack. Asked her dumb stuff like what is your name giving her so much IOIs. Felt like a real ass i just ejected cause i was shaking too much she even asked me why i so nervous.

God if only i knew what i knew now i would have gamed the hell out of her and she might have been sleeping in my tent right now.

2. The Scientific reason (I knew about DJing)
Walking around with some of my friends during school. See some girl with a nice ass walking (we didn't see her face yet) so were like who the hell is that. We go down there they start acting stupid. So we walk over there and i just go lay on the locker talking to her. did typical things that i was told to do from here.

Me: Hi
Her: Hi
Me: Your new here
Her: Ya
Me: Your a freshmen right
Her: Ya

*Wtf is this some kind of interview where was the kino wtf*

Me: So what class you got now
Her: I don't know just started today
Me: O really where did you come from
Her: Florida
Me: Cool how was it down there
Her: It was ok
Me: Let me see your program
*reading her program*
Me: hb7.5
Her: Yep
Me: Well i'm bout to go let me get your number i'll call you sometime
Her: Na

*Eject*

Everyone wanted to know wat happened.

After that i started reading about MM and other posts and learned wtf happened. I was now able to breakdown wat went wrong in my approaches.

1. Said hi
2. Bodylanguage was coming across as needy
3. Tryed to gain rapport which telegraphed interest
4. Barely or if any didn't do no C&F
5. skipped attraction part of the game
6. didn't DHV
7. She gave no IOIs
8. From when i said hi didn't really show good Bodylanguage
9. Barely held eye contact only when i came up to her she was kinda smiling
10. Went for the number kinda quick we were only talking for about 10mins
11. Needy and Desperate

Countless others but those were the main things
Her: Na


lol at her saying Na
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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