Stopping Porn

[Money & Muscle]

There's some debate on whether porn is a bad thing or not and I don't care. If it causes a net negative in your life, it is bad. In my case, it is bad, so do me a favor and leave the "is porn a bad thing" debate aside.

I started using porn at like 12 when a friend showed me some videos. I didn't understand but got there quickly, and it became a regular fixture in my life - at least daily. I used it when I was bored or to hide from negative emotions; often times it was a relief from sexual frustration with my wife when I had a dead bedroom for years. That part is more than fixed now... I get all the sex I want.

But I still find myself watching porn. It's not because I'm bored, it's not because I'm hiding from negative emotions, hell I watch it even if I just got laid a couple hours before. It's a huge dopamine hit.

And that's also why it's a problem for me... the more I watch it, the less dopamine (read: enjoyment) I get from other things in life, and the less motivation I have to do things I need to do; I have a lot of things in life I want to do.


So there's my victim puke. Now who has been hooked on porn and managed to stop? What motivated you to do it? How did you stop?

 

[Pierce Manhammer]

Ever so slight hijack:

Interesting, while I don’t have anything against it I’m not a net consumer of it, unless it’s video of me obliterating a chick, I have an eye for cinematography and most of those turn out quite well.

But I’ve never been able to put myself into the required state of mind that I think would be necessary to enjoy it the way many do. I mean if a chick wants me to see a clip she likes or whatever I won’t say no, but I never just fire it up on my own I guess.

For me it’s like alcohol, sure I’ll have a drink now and then socially, but drinking to get pissed? Or alone? Nope, and furthermore if I got to like it too much I’d simply recognize that and flip that switch off. Stop drinking.

Maybe it’s my psychological makeup - I’m not particularly a dreamer or a victim of flights of fancy, self indulgent behavior has never been part of my life - except with sex. Now that I could never see myself giving up. Ever.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

Like Pierce, porn never fascinated me much. Bunch of strangers having sex isn't that arousing to me. I do have vids made by lovers that arouse me, but that's because I know these women intimately, so it's more like a video sexting message.

I always wonder what void inside themselves porn addicts are trying to fill, but I guess it's a lack of intimacy that motivates the incessant wanker to watch all that content.

As with every addiction, you need to address the motivation behind the addiction to successfully quit.

 

[Bingo-Player]

For me it drives far too much lust which in turn seems to translate into weakness when I am actually dealing with women IRL

its not good for your mindset theres no 2 ways about that , I dont know about physically but the overload of dopamine from watching 2 random people have sex can not be good

I have also found its aroused some fetishes within me which in some senses is good because it spices the bedroom up but again I dont even know if these are necessarily my fetishes or the porn actors

I am trying to get off it permanently

 

[SW15]

I managed to implement a no porn and no masturbation lifestyle practice around a decade ago.

I did it by taking it one day at a time, keeping busy, and also managing to get laid regularly.

If you go 1-3 months without porn, you're going to find that you desire it less and less.

No porn and no masturbation is one of the best practices for success in seduction.

 

[LightIsTaken]

I managed to implement a no porn and no masturbation lifestyle practice around a decade ago.

I did it by taking it one day at a time, keeping busy, and also managing to get laid regularly.

If you go 1-3 months without porn, you're going to find that you desire it less and less.

No porn and no masturbation is one of the best practices for success in seduction.

I remember Rollo once saying in a podcast "what sedates you? That sedation is what prevents you from actually going out there and talking to girls and actually getting laid. The sedation could be video games, porn, masturbation, cam girls or any other thing that acts as a buffer for us from actually living life fully." It just so happens that porn and masturbation are the biggest sedations for guys in the current times.

Though in my case, the difficult part I face is "keeping busy and getting laid". I have noticed a SIGNIFICANT increase of libido and it's pushing me to get laid. It's like my own body is saying "alright fine don't watch the porn and don't use your hand, but you better get laid or we'll keep haunting you with erotic imagination and feelings of loneliness and frustration." That's where I stand right now. Clean for over a month, but frustrated because of not getting laid or having a girl.

Though I'm working on it, but if it weren't for me quitting porn and masturbation, I wouldn't have been getting the IOIs that I'm getting now.

 

[RickTheToad]

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[mikedee]

You can't stop masturbating to porn (pmo), you can cut down though, decrease significantly. But to stop for good? It's not possible, you will have relapses sooner or later, the goal is to keep the relapses as short as possible.
Nothing wrong with watching porn from time to time, it's like eating junk food or get drunk.

 

[SW15]

I remember Rollo once saying in a podcast "what sedates you? That sedation is what prevents you from actually going out there and talking to girls and actually getting laid. The sedation could be video games, porn, masturbation, cam girls or any other thing that acts as a buffer for us from actually living life fully." It just so happens that porn and masturbation are the biggest sedations for guys in the current

I agree with Rollo that porn/masturbation is used as a sedation method to cope with failures in the mating marketplace. It is unhealthy.

the difficult part I face is "keeping busy and getting laid". I have noticed a SIGNIFICANT increase of libido and it's pushing me to get laid. It's like my own body is saying "alright fine don't watch the porn and don't use your hand, but you better get laid or we'll keep haunting you with erotic imagination and feelings of loneliness and frustration." That's where I stand right now. Clean for over a month, but frustrated because of not getting laid or having a girl.

After stopping porn and masturbation, there will be an increase in horniness for a time. This usually occurs somewhere between 2-8 weeks after stopping porn and masturbation. This will be the horniest you will ever be in a no porn/no masturbation lifestyle.

In the longer term, your overall horniness will go down from peak horniness but overall your horniness will be higher because you're not sedating.

No porn and no masturbation will fix your vibe too. Women will pick up on your discipline and your testosterone. Porn and masturbation is a very beta male thing to do. The alpha male is the guy having sex in real life, the beta male is the guy masturbating watching the other guy having sex. There's an argument to be made that the act of watching porn and masturbation is training yourself for cuckoldry. Any way that you slice it, porn and masturbation are not good habits. You want to focus your energy upon getting laid. You're not going to be able to get laid well without approaching and having a good first date vibe, unless you want to just pay directly for sex.

In the long term, a man is going to need to get laid regularly to keep up a no porn and no masturbation streak. While the whole no porn/no masturbation thing delivers some benefits and is a great lifestyle practice, there is a need for other elements on Game to be on point. Your looks, money, and status should be in a good place. While no porn/no masturbation can help with your personality/charisma/vibe, it's not the only thing.

I think the best practice is to combine no porn/no masturbation with a healthy diet and an exercise routine. The diet and exercise part will make sure that you are optimizing your looks and no porn/no masturbation helps with your overall vibe.

 

[mikedee]

No porn and no masturbation is one of the best practices for success in seduction.

It helps of course, but you can fap 5x a day and be very successful with women. The hottest girls I approched and fvcked, I was struggling with porn addiction.
We often use the "porn issue" as an excuse not to approach, like "I watched to much porn, not in the mood to approach"
BS, you can approach and deliver a very good approach even if you're dry on testosterone.

 

[CornbreadFed]

Never became addicted to porn and I can do it once or twice a week and be completely fine. Even as a Teenager I was 3 times a week just to empty the nuts.

 

[Learning Curve]

There's some debate on whether porn is a bad thing or not and I don't care. If it causes a net negative in your life, it is bad. In my case, it is bad, so do me a favor and leave the "is porn a bad thing" debate aside.

I started using porn at like 12 when a friend showed me some videos. I didn't understand but got there quickly, and it became a regular fixture in my life - at least daily. I used it when I was bored or to hide from negative emotions; often times it was a relief from sexual frustration with my wife when I had a dead bedroom for years. That part is more than fixed now... I get all the sex I want.

But I still find myself watching porn. It's not because I'm bored, it's not because I'm hiding from negative emotions, hell I watch it even if I just got laid a couple hours before. It's a huge dopamine hit.

And that's also why it's a problem for me... the more I watch it, the less dopamine (read: enjoyment) I get from other things in life, and the less motivation I have to do things I need to do; I have a lot of things in life I want to do.


So there's my victim puke. Now who has been hooked on porn and managed to stop? What motivated you to do it? How did you stop?

Porn is a tough one.

So many people are hooked and this industry is making billions every year.

Most people watch porn because they want to have something they can't with their wife's or girlfriends usually.

The only reason to watch porn if you are in a relationship or married is because your needs are not being met.

Getting off porn is better for your mental health in general. I got of porn a while ago and my pleasure of having sex and stimulation with my girlfriend has increased.

I don't need porn, it's something addictive and it's destroying your brain. As with Smoking, as with drinking, as with all the sh1t that we as humanity have created to have short-term pleasure.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

Porn is a tough one.

So many people are hooked and this industry is making billions every year.

Actually, as addictions go, porn is one of the easier ones to quit; much easier than opiates, nicotine and alcohol, since you can easily avoid watching porn.

 

[Money & Muscle]

Actually, as addictions go, porn is one of the easier ones to quit; much easier than opiates, nicotine and alcohol, since you can easily avoid watching porn.

It's less addictive, but more accessible. Literally within your reach nearly 24 hours a day.

 

[Manure Spherian]

It's not possible

I have not watched in a decade.

 

[TheGambino]

Im quitting now also

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

It's less addictive, but more accessible. Literally within your reach nearly 24 hours a day.

You want to talk about difficult-to-quit addictions?

I'm diabetic since Covid. Sugar is now poison to me. But not only is it extremely accessible, sugar is hidden in everything, even stuff you don't think would contain sugar. Every time I order coffee somewhere, it comes with a cookie; I pick up a package and there's a bowl of candy on the counter; every time I do groceries I'm surrounded by sugar containing items everywhere. Easter is almost here and there are bowls of chocolate eggs at every cash register.
On top of that, I have children and they're not diabetic, so I have cookies and candy for them. In my house. I just have to resist the temptation.

Resisting porn is incredibly easy in comparison. Nobody will offer you porn if you're not looking for it. You have to specifically look for porn websites and you can use things like NetNanny or other inhibitors to prevent you from looking at the websites at all.
Only the incredibly spineless cannot resist the lure.

If you're serious about quitting porn, you can do it more easily than stopping with smoking or alcohol. Or sugar. Anybody who whines about how quitting porn is difficult or hard should get their head examined.

 

[Money & Muscle]

Anybody who whines about how quitting porn is difficult or hard should get their head examined.

No one is whining, I asked how people have managed to do it.

You want to talk about difficult-to-quit addictions?

I'm diabetic since Covid. Sugar is now poison to me. But not only is it extremely accessible, sugar is hidden in everything, even stuff you don't think would contain sugar. Every time I order coffee somewhere, it comes with a cookie; I pick up a package and there's a bowl of candy on the counter; every time I do groceries I'm surrounded by sugar containing items everywhere. Easter is almost here and there are bowls of chocolate eggs are every cash register.
On top of that, I have children and they're not diabetic, so I have cookies and candy for them. In my house. I just have to resist the temptation.

*This* is whining about it.

I appreciate your input about a lot of things, but you're off base here. I asked for help, not pity.

 

[Pandora]

There's some debate on whether porn is a bad thing or not and I don't care. If it causes a net negative in your life, it is bad. In my case, it is bad, so do me a favor and leave the "is porn a bad thing" debate aside.

I started using porn at like 12 when a friend showed me some videos. I didn't understand but got there quickly, and it became a regular fixture in my life - at least daily. I used it when I was bored or to hide from negative emotions; often times it was a relief from sexual frustration with my wife when I had a dead bedroom for years. That part is more than fixed now... I get all the sex I want.

But I still find myself watching porn. It's not because I'm bored, it's not because I'm hiding from negative emotions, hell I watch it even if I just got laid a couple hours before. It's a huge dopamine hit.

And that's also why it's a problem for me... the more I watch it, the less dopamine (read: enjoyment) I get from other things in life, and the less motivation I have to do things I need to do; I have a lot of things in life I want to do.


So there's my victim puke. Now who has been hooked on porn and managed to stop? What motivated you to do it? How did you stop?

Most men including myself struggle with porn. I love big booty latinas. What works for me is getting home tired and going straight to bed. Or taking a week on a camping trip to reset your brain. Or pyschedelics. Yeh dont feel bad most men struggle with this.

Jason Gorden Levitt did a movie about his porn addiction called Don Jaun.

Porn is mens great battle in the modern world. It is to men what social media is to women.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

I appreciate your input about a lot of things, but you're off base here. I asked for help, not pity.

I responded to your comment how you consider stopping with porn is difficult because it's so accessible and 24/7 available.

I didn't say you whined about it, but I compare the difficulty of stopping porn with hardcore addictions like smoking and alcohol, and yes, sugar. Compared to that, not watching porn is incredibly easy.

And if you want help with stopping porn and you cannot regulate your own internet use, get NetNanny or something similar so you cannot access your accessible porn.