What do you do when a girl constantly mentions her bf to you? This girl ALWAYS seems to bring him into the conversation, which can be very damn annoying. We'll be talking about something (a totally random topic), and she'll slip in the "my boyfriend blah blah blah" out of the blue. I thought using the generic "oh. yeah? cool." would give her a hint that I don't give a f$ck but obviously it didn't. Before you ask, I'm not pursuing this girl or anything like that. I just don't wanna hear about him in every other conversation cuz it's annoying, like I said. But yeah, she's great to talk to otherwise. So what's the best way to stop or cool down the bf chatter?
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don't do anything to make her think it bugs you, make sure she knows you are the prize, my favourite is a very sarcastic "thats nice" or something along those lines, just dont admit to her it annoys you and tell her to stop, make her think u dont care but at that same time dont make it a topic of conversation, if she says anything, try to shut it down ASAP and move onto something else. Persist.
MacDiddy
Master Don Juan
There is 2 ways to see this.. given the lack of detail
1 - She likes you and talking about her BF will prevent you from pursuing her, and to act as a cover for her guilty feelings.
2 - She might well and truly adore her BF
I do counter your claim that you are not pursuing her.. I feel that you are jealous that this BF has something that you don't.... HER!!!!
1 - She likes you and talking about her BF will prevent you from pursuing her, and to act as a cover for her guilty feelings.
2 - She might well and truly adore her BF
I do counter your claim that you are not pursuing her.. I feel that you are jealous that this BF has something that you don't.... HER!!!!
Phoenix_of_the_ashes
Master Don Juan
My girlfirend tells me that she does this to, its your hint that your not gonna get anything here.
I don't agree with that. Countless women do the "I have a bf" thing, but actually want guys to pursue them. I think the psychology behind this is, they can see whether or not they like you, and if not, they can fall back on the "bf" thing.
I love girls online who profess their undying love to some guy on their profile, yet hit me up with a "hey sexy" instant message.
Having a bf to some women is another form of "anti-slut defense". They can be all over you, but when you respond they say "Oh I can't, I have a bf".. THEN WHY THE **** HAVE YOU JUST BEEN RIDING MY JOCK FOR A HALF HOUR???
Most women are *****s, and I think they think having a bf gives them social value, while they're still free to pursue their whorish ways.
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Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
I'm Joe Dirt
Master Don Juan
I'll usually handle it by saying something like "hey its none of my business, I don't even wanna know" (that works especially well if she is talking to you about Bf drama)
Phoenix_of_the_ashes
Master Don Juan
So for you theres no such thing as a real relationship between man and woman because all women with boyfriends only have boyfriends to mask the fact that they are sluts?
I know this is hard for you, but do you see where I said "SOME women with boyfriends" do this ?????????
I'm not sure where the word "some" or "most" becomes "all"????
Hang in there, keep going to school, and I'm sure your reading comprehension skills will improve.
I'm Joe Dirt
Master Don Juan
Something tells me you are pursuing her and that is the fact that you're posting your problem on these forums.
If you have absolutley no interest in the girl and weren't trying to "play this off" somehow you could just tell her straight up you don't care about listening to stories about her bf and you wouldnt worry what she does because you have no interest in her.
If you do want to play it off using ****y and funny you can always say something like "really? my boyfriend does that too!"
If you have absolutley no interest in the girl and weren't trying to "play this off" somehow you could just tell her straight up you don't care about listening to stories about her bf and you wouldnt worry what she does because you have no interest in her.
If you do want to play it off using ****y and funny you can always say something like "really? my boyfriend does that too!"
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Hm, well I guess you guys are right about me going for her. Just didn't see it that way before. That's part of the problem then cuz I definitely don't want to get trapped into that sort of a mess. Your suggestions are good though. Perhaps some sarcasm and C&F is in order... That, I can do!!!