What do you do when a girl constantly mentions her bf to you? This girl ALWAYS seems to bring him into the conversation, which can be very damn annoying. We'll be talking about something (a totally random topic), and she'll slip in the "my boyfriend blah blah blah" out of the blue. I thought using the generic "oh. yeah? cool." would give her a hint that I don't give a f$ck but obviously it didn't. Before you ask, I'm not pursuing this girl or anything like that. I just don't wanna hear about him in every other conversation cuz it's annoying, like I said. But yeah, she's great to talk to otherwise. So what's the best way to stop or cool down the bf chatter?
"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
stopping boyfriend chatter...
- Thread starter mrmoe
- Start date
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
djaus111000
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don't do anything to make her think it bugs you, make sure she knows you are the prize, my favourite is a very sarcastic "thats nice" or something along those lines, just dont admit to her it annoys you and tell her to stop, make her think u dont care but at that same time dont make it a topic of conversation, if she says anything, try to shut it down ASAP and move onto something else. Persist.
MacDiddy
Master Don Juan
There is 2 ways to see this.. given the lack of detail
1 - She likes you and talking about her BF will prevent you from pursuing her, and to act as a cover for her guilty feelings.
2 - She might well and truly adore her BF
I do counter your claim that you are not pursuing her.. I feel that you are jealous that this BF has something that you don't.... HER!!!!
1 - She likes you and talking about her BF will prevent you from pursuing her, and to act as a cover for her guilty feelings.
2 - She might well and truly adore her BF
I do counter your claim that you are not pursuing her.. I feel that you are jealous that this BF has something that you don't.... HER!!!!
Phoenix_of_the_ashes
Master Don Juan
My girlfirend tells me that she does this to, its your hint that your not gonna get anything here.
I don't agree with that. Countless women do the "I have a bf" thing, but actually want guys to pursue them. I think the psychology behind this is, they can see whether or not they like you, and if not, they can fall back on the "bf" thing.
I love girls online who profess their undying love to some guy on their profile, yet hit me up with a "hey sexy" instant message.
Having a bf to some women is another form of "anti-slut defense". They can be all over you, but when you respond they say "Oh I can't, I have a bf".. THEN WHY THE **** HAVE YOU JUST BEEN RIDING MY JOCK FOR A HALF HOUR???
Most women are *****s, and I think they think having a bf gives them social value, while they're still free to pursue their whorish ways.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
I'm Joe Dirt
Master Don Juan
I'll usually handle it by saying something like "hey its none of my business, I don't even wanna know" (that works especially well if she is talking to you about Bf drama)
Phoenix_of_the_ashes
Master Don Juan
So for you theres no such thing as a real relationship between man and woman because all women with boyfriends only have boyfriends to mask the fact that they are sluts?
I know this is hard for you, but do you see where I said "SOME women with boyfriends" do this ?????????
I'm not sure where the word "some" or "most" becomes "all"????
Hang in there, keep going to school, and I'm sure your reading comprehension skills will improve.
I'm Joe Dirt
Master Don Juan
Something tells me you are pursuing her and that is the fact that you're posting your problem on these forums.
If you have absolutley no interest in the girl and weren't trying to "play this off" somehow you could just tell her straight up you don't care about listening to stories about her bf and you wouldnt worry what she does because you have no interest in her.
If you do want to play it off using ****y and funny you can always say something like "really? my boyfriend does that too!"
If you have absolutley no interest in the girl and weren't trying to "play this off" somehow you could just tell her straight up you don't care about listening to stories about her bf and you wouldnt worry what she does because you have no interest in her.
If you do want to play it off using ****y and funny you can always say something like "really? my boyfriend does that too!"
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Hm, well I guess you guys are right about me going for her. Just didn't see it that way before. That's part of the problem then cuz I definitely don't want to get trapped into that sort of a mess. Your suggestions are good though. Perhaps some sarcasm and C&F is in order... That, I can do!!!