"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Stop with the idiotic approaches

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I noticed a lot of people are doing a very quick approach where they ask the girl if she has a boyfriend. 98% of the time they say they have boyfriends, but most of them are lying. I'm glad that some of the guys on this board are actually doing something like that, it's very ballsy, but utterly stupid. Keep approaching, but actually talk to the girl, don't just ask a question and eject.

If someone came up to you, and said BUY MY PRODUCT, chances are you wouldn't buy it. In fact, you'd make up a line, like "Actually I'm busy now", or "I already have one". However, if the salesman tells you a little bit about it, shows you how it's a rare commodity, you'd start getting interested. Until he overdid it. But if he showed you how valuable it was, and left it at that, you would be more intrigued by it.

So stop doing those "Hi. Can I get your number?" Approaches. Go for the number, but show some value and interest in the girl first. What kind of liar says "You seem like a fun girl", when you've talked to her for a total of 5 seconds? She could be a total idiot.

Being a DJ is not a skill. So stop thinking you have to practice it. Just do whatever the f.uck you want to do.
 
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“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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In addition, would you people please stop saying what you're GOING to do? Half the time you guys chicken out. So post it AFTER you do it.

"You can't build a reputation on what you intend to do." as quoted from Henry Ford.

Also on that note, "Skillful pilots gain their reputation from storms and tempests."
- Epicurus (c. 341-c. 270 BC)

Keep these in mind, although when I speak of reputation here, I'm implying your true character, not just what others think of you.
 

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Actually soda, I posted this after reading your journal.

You seem like a cool guy, and although it is of no importance to you, i am proud of you.

I just think you could do better.

You want to get good at talking to girls? Well, talk to them more often. Don't say it's an approach. Go for the number if she's cool.

You learn what you practice. So you are going to get really good at talking to girls for 5 seconds and then ejecting. F.uck it. Just be sociable... talk to the girls. Learn something from them, entertain them, whatever.

And yes, at one point I had to be drunk as hell to talk to a girl. Not even talk to her, but tap her on the shoulder and nod to the dance floor.

YOU GUYS DO NOT NEED BABY STEPS. JUST LIKE YOU USED TO SKIP STAIRS AS A KID, SKIP LEVELS IN "DJ"-ing!!!

...and there's no such thing as what a DJ "should" do. The reason he's a DJ is because he is HIMSELF.

Some guys I see are cool on the board, but then they talk to women and they become nerds. Just be as cool as you come across on here, and you will not have a problem.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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ALWAYS DOES

Alphawolx usually posts common sense posts that are worth reading.
 

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Good work, alpha. Clear, direct and laudable.

Do you work in public relations or politics? If not, consider it.
 
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