"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Stop with the idiotic approaches

alphawolfx

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I noticed a lot of people are doing a very quick approach where they ask the girl if she has a boyfriend. 98% of the time they say they have boyfriends, but most of them are lying. I'm glad that some of the guys on this board are actually doing something like that, it's very ballsy, but utterly stupid. Keep approaching, but actually talk to the girl, don't just ask a question and eject.

If someone came up to you, and said BUY MY PRODUCT, chances are you wouldn't buy it. In fact, you'd make up a line, like "Actually I'm busy now", or "I already have one". However, if the salesman tells you a little bit about it, shows you how it's a rare commodity, you'd start getting interested. Until he overdid it. But if he showed you how valuable it was, and left it at that, you would be more intrigued by it.

So stop doing those "Hi. Can I get your number?" Approaches. Go for the number, but show some value and interest in the girl first. What kind of liar says "You seem like a fun girl", when you've talked to her for a total of 5 seconds? She could be a total idiot.

Being a DJ is not a skill. So stop thinking you have to practice it. Just do whatever the f.uck you want to do.
 
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“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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In addition, would you people please stop saying what you're GOING to do? Half the time you guys chicken out. So post it AFTER you do it.

"You can't build a reputation on what you intend to do." as quoted from Henry Ford.

Also on that note, "Skillful pilots gain their reputation from storms and tempests."
- Epicurus (c. 341-c. 270 BC)

Keep these in mind, although when I speak of reputation here, I'm implying your true character, not just what others think of you.
 

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Actually soda, I posted this after reading your journal.

You seem like a cool guy, and although it is of no importance to you, i am proud of you.

I just think you could do better.

You want to get good at talking to girls? Well, talk to them more often. Don't say it's an approach. Go for the number if she's cool.

You learn what you practice. So you are going to get really good at talking to girls for 5 seconds and then ejecting. F.uck it. Just be sociable... talk to the girls. Learn something from them, entertain them, whatever.

And yes, at one point I had to be drunk as hell to talk to a girl. Not even talk to her, but tap her on the shoulder and nod to the dance floor.

YOU GUYS DO NOT NEED BABY STEPS. JUST LIKE YOU USED TO SKIP STAIRS AS A KID, SKIP LEVELS IN "DJ"-ing!!!

...and there's no such thing as what a DJ "should" do. The reason he's a DJ is because he is HIMSELF.

Some guys I see are cool on the board, but then they talk to women and they become nerds. Just be as cool as you come across on here, and you will not have a problem.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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ALWAYS DOES

Alphawolx usually posts common sense posts that are worth reading.
 

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Good work, alpha. Clear, direct and laudable.

Do you work in public relations or politics? If not, consider it.
 
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