Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Considering the masculine nature of women today - hearing this is a GOOD thing, "IF you are asserting yourself as a man and treating them like a woman!!! However, if you are unbearable because you are a rude and a disrespectful person then they are correct in their assessment!!!Originally posted by gruby
..Yesterday 2 other girls tell me that i "have no respect for women." It's becoming a pattern and i don't know wheather it's good or not.
Actually, that's more than just disrespectful, it is a rude turn-off especially when you do that in their presence.Originally posted by gruby
I suppose i ramble too much about other pretty girls...
If that is the case, you are my new hero gruby!Originally posted by johnny_chase
well, girls do like to be looked in the eye every so often. Do you grab their ass instead of shaking their hand? Do you eat your breakfast off their tits? Do you rest your beer on the top of their head while they, errr, service you?
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
What, he's not doing anything wrong? He's sparking that well-known feeling of JEALOUSY! Why else would they get pissed of?Originally posted by rgeere
Actually, that's more than just disrespectful, it is a rude turn-off especially when you do that in their presence.
This is fine, if you don't ever plan on trying to sleep with the girls to whom you're rambling.Originally posted by gruby
I suppose i ramble too much about other pretty girls...
If it is sincere and they know it without you EMPHASIZING, then yes ...Originally posted by Skweints
What, he's not doing anything wrong? He's sparking that well-known feeling of JEALOUSY! Why else would they get pissed of?
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Where did you hear that?Originally posted by rgeere
You have to give respect to receive respect
Experience told me ... You reap what you sow, it's a natural law ...Originally posted by Ice Cold
Where did you hear that?
Life, probably. No one respects someone who is disrespectful. Fear, perhaps, but don't confuse that with genuine respect. And from the tone of your post, don't confuse respectfulness with supplication, ass-kissing and niceness.Originally posted by Ice Cold
Where did you hear that?
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.