Flabbergasped?
Master Don Juan
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I don't think looks matter that much, but I'm tired of the terrible, self-limiting advice people give on here concerning looks.
Sh!tty advice #1: You can't change your looks, so focus on personality.
First of all, you can change everything about your appearance through surgery, so that statement is wrong in absolute terms. Also, the only parts of your appearance that cannot be changed cheaply with a little willpower are your height and facial structure.
Before some whiner tells me he has a fat, round facial structure, slap yourself. The human skull has definition, if your facial structure is round, it's almost always (with exceptions) because you have too much body fat.
My problem with sh!tty advice #1 is that it stops guys from improving themselves. 99% of the "self-improvement" we suggest to rAFCs is getting better clothes, working out, getting a new haircut, better hygiene, etc. This is all changing your looks. Looks aren't just face and height.
Sh!tty advice #2: Girls don't care about looks the way guys do
This is bad advice, because the geniuses on this board will interpret it as "well, I'm a fatass, but girls don't care about looks, so I'll run the cube and they'll put out." Think about it this way: looks are about 90% of the equation for whether a guy wants to fvck a girl. I'll say it's about 50% for girls. That's right folks, if you look like Brad Pitt, you're halfway there (which empirically makes sense, since super good-looking guys can bang hot floozies by not doing anything wrong).
Being that getting laid is a number's game, you should be doing everything in your power to improve your success rate. I'd say my rate of lays to rejections, aggregate, is probably like 1-2%, probably lower if you count the dozens of times I was rejected before finding SS. Mystery's is 10%. Your job is to improve this percentage by any means necessary, and looks is one of them.
Sh!tty advice #3: Wutang is a pvssy
This advice sucks, because it doesn't go to the heart of wutang's issues. Consider the race issue: the consensus is that race doesn't matter. Not because it's actually irrelevant, but because you can't do anything to change it, so it's a sunk cost. Looks is equivalent to race if and only if you can't change your looks, i.e. if you already have good fashion sense, a nice body, good hygiene, and other things to make you look presentable.
Wutang and his ilk should be encouraged to look in the mirror and ask whether they are truly satisfied with their appearance. I think if he's put in work to improve his look, he would have some confidence is his appearance, and would stop whining so much.
I bring wutang up specifically because most of his posts say: "i'm 5'8'' and good-looking, but can't get ass." Then, five posts later, "I'm ugly and hate myself." Whether wutang is actually good-looking or not, he's too insecure about his looks to make it work to his advantage. Naturally, this comes across when he approaches, and he comes off as an insecure scrote, go figure.
Conclusion
The 'looks whiners' are still whiners, but there's better ways to set them on the right path than to insult them. Hopefully someone will use this thread to come up with some constructive advice. Also, if you're fat and ugly, but don't have a deformity or a thyroid condition, fix it. You'll be glad you did.
Sh!tty advice #1: You can't change your looks, so focus on personality.
First of all, you can change everything about your appearance through surgery, so that statement is wrong in absolute terms. Also, the only parts of your appearance that cannot be changed cheaply with a little willpower are your height and facial structure.
Before some whiner tells me he has a fat, round facial structure, slap yourself. The human skull has definition, if your facial structure is round, it's almost always (with exceptions) because you have too much body fat.
My problem with sh!tty advice #1 is that it stops guys from improving themselves. 99% of the "self-improvement" we suggest to rAFCs is getting better clothes, working out, getting a new haircut, better hygiene, etc. This is all changing your looks. Looks aren't just face and height.
Sh!tty advice #2: Girls don't care about looks the way guys do
This is bad advice, because the geniuses on this board will interpret it as "well, I'm a fatass, but girls don't care about looks, so I'll run the cube and they'll put out." Think about it this way: looks are about 90% of the equation for whether a guy wants to fvck a girl. I'll say it's about 50% for girls. That's right folks, if you look like Brad Pitt, you're halfway there (which empirically makes sense, since super good-looking guys can bang hot floozies by not doing anything wrong).
Being that getting laid is a number's game, you should be doing everything in your power to improve your success rate. I'd say my rate of lays to rejections, aggregate, is probably like 1-2%, probably lower if you count the dozens of times I was rejected before finding SS. Mystery's is 10%. Your job is to improve this percentage by any means necessary, and looks is one of them.
Sh!tty advice #3: Wutang is a pvssy
This advice sucks, because it doesn't go to the heart of wutang's issues. Consider the race issue: the consensus is that race doesn't matter. Not because it's actually irrelevant, but because you can't do anything to change it, so it's a sunk cost. Looks is equivalent to race if and only if you can't change your looks, i.e. if you already have good fashion sense, a nice body, good hygiene, and other things to make you look presentable.
Wutang and his ilk should be encouraged to look in the mirror and ask whether they are truly satisfied with their appearance. I think if he's put in work to improve his look, he would have some confidence is his appearance, and would stop whining so much.
I bring wutang up specifically because most of his posts say: "i'm 5'8'' and good-looking, but can't get ass." Then, five posts later, "I'm ugly and hate myself." Whether wutang is actually good-looking or not, he's too insecure about his looks to make it work to his advantage. Naturally, this comes across when he approaches, and he comes off as an insecure scrote, go figure.
Conclusion
The 'looks whiners' are still whiners, but there's better ways to set them on the right path than to insult them. Hopefully someone will use this thread to come up with some constructive advice. Also, if you're fat and ugly, but don't have a deformity or a thyroid condition, fix it. You'll be glad you did.