"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Stop counting and focus on healing

SamTheHobit

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When not contacting an ex girlfriend stop counting the days you've stopped talking to her and focus on healing.

I can't be the only one that does this so just thought I'd post about it.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Yeah...did that at first. After 60 I stopped keeping count, but she still texts me from time to time. I still ignore.
 

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GS750 said:
Yeah...did that at first. After 60 I stopped keeping count, but she still texts me from time to time. I still ignore.
Dude,

Why she keeps contacting you? how long it been since you did NC?
 

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Counting days away from an ex just reinforces loss and subtly keeps you focused on the past and what you don't have anymore. It keeps you stuck in the past and thinking about your ex.

Counting days of dedicated self improvement, investing in ACTIVITIES that better yourself now, for an even better future, (that may include refraining from contact with an ex), is a whole different focus. When done properly, it can result in a better you and a better life, than you ever knew before. Counting in this way can create a focus on momentum, which can be powerful.

Making choices that truly move you on and make you a better man, after a break-up, is what matters most, not how you get there. Just get results.
Very spot on. After a break up especially where you were hoping for a different outcome, your ego takes a hit. So doing activities to better yourself, using what you learned from the bi*** to do things differently with the next babe not only makes her old news fast but it boosts your confidence, not to mention a hot bod and saving money you could be spending on her flaky ass.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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zorg198 said:
Dude,

Why she keeps contacting you? how long it been since you did NC?
Dont know brother. I've been 100% no contact for probably close to 80 days at this point. Could be any number of reasons why she still texts, but I'm not really interested in finding out. :rolleyes:
 
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