"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Stop counting and focus on healing

SamTheHobit

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When not contacting an ex girlfriend stop counting the days you've stopped talking to her and focus on healing.

I can't be the only one that does this so just thought I'd post about it.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Yeah...did that at first. After 60 I stopped keeping count, but she still texts me from time to time. I still ignore.
 

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GS750 said:
Yeah...did that at first. After 60 I stopped keeping count, but she still texts me from time to time. I still ignore.
Dude,

Why she keeps contacting you? how long it been since you did NC?
 

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LiveYourDream said:
Counting days away from an ex just reinforces loss and subtly keeps you focused on the past and what you don't have anymore. It keeps you stuck in the past and thinking about your ex.

Counting days of dedicated self improvement, investing in ACTIVITIES that better yourself now, for an even better future, (that may include refraining from contact with an ex), is a whole different focus. When done properly, it can result in a better you and a better life, than you ever knew before. Counting in this way can create a focus on momentum, which can be powerful.

Making choices that truly move you on and make you a better man, after a break-up, is what matters most, not how you get there. Just get results.
Very spot on. After a break up especially where you were hoping for a different outcome, your ego takes a hit. So doing activities to better yourself, using what you learned from the bi*** to do things differently with the next babe not only makes her old news fast but it boosts your confidence, not to mention a hot bod and saving money you could be spending on her flaky ass.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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zorg198 said:
Dude,

Why she keeps contacting you? how long it been since you did NC?
Dont know brother. I've been 100% no contact for probably close to 80 days at this point. Could be any number of reasons why she still texts, but I'm not really interested in finding out. :rolleyes:
 
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