"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Stop Being Timid!
- Thread starter frivolousz21
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
ONS suck IMO because I have to use condoms which take away too much off the pleasure and they all sit way to tight on me. Also you can never have an advanced form off sex with them so it's pretty boring sex too.
Don_Joffe
Senior Don Juan
1 thing though if you are a trophy you are being trophied around to show around and she is showing you off therefore she is a player.
Your goal is to become the PRIZE rather.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
frivolousz21
Master Don Juan
Im not trying to push my ideals onto anyone..Im just pointing out the best way to get the job done...I am telling you how much this works...
I believe the sosuave ideal is nearly perfect...but that is just me. Showing a girl that you can and will be the best guy to bend her over the couch will get her everytime...showing and telling are differnt things. I realize that we all want to be with someone smart, funny, intellectual and ATTRACTIVE..you can still get that girl and get her clothes off as fast as the ones who just want sex with you.
thats what im saying..the more she wants to get on her knees and suck ur ****..the better chance for you to get her heart as well...its true..the basic princibles of men and women are SEX and balance..left and right brains.
I wish everyone in here the best this yr!
as for my goals..just to keep my sex life good.and meet someone I can share this life with
but if that doesnt happen...some good ole hot sex will do!im only 22.
this whole thing holds only a little bit of weight on me, because my last serious relationship which ended because of distance needless to sayOriginally posted by frivolousz21
Im not a PIMP..even tho I could be...then again everyone on this forum on some level has that ability...wether they use it or not.
Im not trying to push my ideals onto anyone..Im just pointing out the best way to get the job done...I am telling you how much this works...
I believe the sosuave ideal is nearly perfect...but that is just me. Showing a girl that you can and will be the best guy to bend her over the couch will get her everytime...showing and telling are differnt things. I realize that we all want to be with someone smart, funny, intellectual and ATTRACTIVE..you can still get that girl and get her clothes off as fast as the ones who just want sex with you.
thats what im saying..the more she wants to get on her knees and suck ur ****..the better chance for you to get her heart as well...its true..the basic princibles of men and women are SEX and balance..left and right brains.
I wish everyone in here the best this yr!
as for my goals..just to keep my sex life good.and meet someone I can share this life with
im only 22.
my last serious relationship which was seriously one of the best ones i've had sexually she wanted me in every possible way in fact she even said.. your like the ONLY guy i've ever WANTED to give head to.
with that said i can see your point about the whole sexual side of things but i still don't belive in just scoreing with every girl i find attractive.
I wonder how many DJs who have successful relationships because most off us is way to demanding and cold. So, don't go blindly after the rules.
frivolousz21
Master Don Juan
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Don Juanabbe
Master Don Juan
On the money bro. So what if a couple of them are 'taken aback' by your boldness. This helps you weed out lukewarm interest.