"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Stop being butthole when get into LTR or marriage? THINK AGAIN!

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People say a man should change once he GETS the girl? BULL!


Notice what happens when a man starts helping his woman? She TAKES OFF and goes party or whatever else. She doesn't go help the guy or STAND and listen to him b*tch about doing them damn chores.

But if a man takes off - he is a d*ck!
If a woman takes off - just DARE to call her a b*tch!


So, end conclusion - be the butthole you are in marriage and LTR and just don't listen to her crap. Let it go in one ear and come out the other. Besides, as soon as she sees you do stuff for her - she will be looking for a new man ASAP but on a very unconscious level. It will just HAPPEN. Its not like she actually THINKS about getting a new man but she will.


Let them do their chores, do stuff for you, be a d*ck, make her tired and exhausted because if you let her loose for a SECOND - its over.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Sorry if you're having a hard time, bro. ....Not to sound like a wise-a$$ newbie, but this doesn't sound like a DJ approach. Be strong? Definitely. Be a pr#*k? Never.
 

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An emotional scandal gets your woman screaming at you - what do you do?
How will you be strong? She is in a state where sitting next to her and ignoring her is not possible.

Best you can do is just leave and let her cool but thats also called being a prick because she wants to talk to you.
 

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Did you get married when we weren't paying attention Babs? What's the lucky guy's name?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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That post reminds me of the following song:

Anal Cunt - I Convinced You To Beat Your Wife On A Daily Basis

BEAT BEAT BEAT BEAT BEAT BEAT BEAT YOUR WIFE
BEAT BEAT BEAT BEAT BEAT BEAT BEAT YOUR WIFE
BEAT BEAT BEAT BEAT BEAT BEAT BEAT YOUR WIFE
BEAT BEAT BEAT BEAT BEAT BEAT BEAT YOUR WIFE

YOUR WIFE'S SO ****ING POSSESSIVE, SHE COMPLAINS
WHEN YOU'RE WITH FRIENDS
SHE'S ALWAYS A WINING ****, YOU CAVE IN CUZ
YOU'RE A FAG

BEAT BEAT BEAT BEAT BEAT BEAT BEAT YOUR WIFE
BEAT BEAT BEAT BEAT BEAT BEAT BEAT YOUR WIFE
BEAT BEAT BEAT BEAT BEAT BEAT BEAT YOUR WIFE
BEAT BEAT BEAT BEAT BEAT BEAT BEAT YOUR WIFE

IF SHE DOESN'T DO THE DISHES OR GET YOU ANOTHER BEER
THEN PUNCH HER IN THE FACE, AND THROW HER DOWN THE STAIRS
IF YOU DON'T BEAT THAT ****, SHE'LL WALK ALL OVER YOU
BEAT HER EVERY DAY, IT'S LOTS OF FUN TOO

BEAT BEAT BEAT BEAT BEAT BEAT BEAT YOUR WIFE
BEAT BEAT BEAT BEAT BEAT BEAT BEAT YOUR WIFE
BEAT BEAT BEAT BEAT BEAT BEAT BEAT YOUR WIFE
BEAT BEAT BEAT BEAT BEAT BEAT BEAT YOUR WIFE
 

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I think Babnik's probably right. Pook says that you shouldn't change your ways after you get a woman, or you won't have her for long.
 

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Babnik stated it very poorly but the basic idea seems to work. You have to maintain control of the relationship or she will take over, get bored and either leave or push you away.

It's in their nature.
 

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C'mon guys. Maturity.

There are alot of words that could be changed around in his post, but the basic point is, if you start being an AFC again after marriage things are more likely to fall apart.

Just be a DJ before and during marriage, and things will prosper [most of the time]
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Obsidian said:
I think Babnik's probably right. Pook says that you shouldn't change your ways after you get a woman, or you won't have her for long.
I'm not sure he meant to treat her like trash... What's the point of marriage (besides children) if all it's about is just to kick her around... repeatedly.

I'm not sure bigjohnson is completely state it correctly either, sort of messed up that all control have to remain in the man, it like there is not trust at all. Again, what's the point if the wife cannot be trusted at all?
 

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I was probably overly brief - it's a bad habit. The intent is that the man has to remain the dominant one in the relationship at all times, this does not imply that the woman does not have spheres of influence or even control of certain aspects within the workings of the relationship.

This does not mean treating her badly, on the contrary it amounts to doing what will ultimately make her the most happy whether she realizes it or not. Sadly western women are programmed to sabotage most of this.
 

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What I am saying is that maintaining control will require making your woman pissed at you, and often will require being a TOTAL ******* not because you want to but because if you won't - she will become a b*tch and take advantage.
 

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Being a TOTAL ******* is certainly a LOT easier than working on yourself, and your own confidence, and basically being "The Prize," and leading from a position of security and true inner strength, ain't it now?
 
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