Well, I was supposed to go to the movies tonight with this girl. I tell her 7 at the mall. She never shows up. I come home and talk to her on the internet since my bro was on the phone with his girlfriend. She tells me how sorry she was and how she wanted to make it up to me. Hmm, well to make a story short, do you guys think I should set up another date or just wait for her to?
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did she tell you why she never showed up? if not, shes probably not interested.
i say set another date up at a super fancy place, tell her to meet you there, then dont show up and never talk to her again
i say set another date up at a super fancy place, tell her to meet you there, then dont show up and never talk to her again
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WTF?
NO. I think you should stand up for youself and tell her how rude it was of her to break the movie date, but "allow" her to make it up to you with a date she initiates...it's her responsibility to make it up to you if she's really interested.
Don't give her a chance to make it up, then all your doing is reciprocating to her. Tell her strait up what she did was f'ed up and that you don't want to talk to her anymore.
Grow some balls, and whenever something like that happens, remember the Don Juans 4 letter word. NEXT!!
Grow some balls, and whenever something like that happens, remember the Don Juans 4 letter word. NEXT!!
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if she has a legitimate reason i would set up another date with her or something, after all she "wanted to make it up to you", so you could probably get some ass for this. But if she does it do u again just leave her ass immediately. Just go chill at her place or something.
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Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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I agree. Don't jump to conclusions without facts.
If it was something important, she would have called and told you she couldn't make it.
You have to really work at it to actually make a date, not show up, AND not call the person to let them know you can't make it...you know?
Even if she's sorry...I wouldn't give her another chance. I'd still maybe talk to her, but why should you tolerate being disrespected by her?
I mean, personally, I wouldn't be giving her a whole lot of respect. Either she made a conscious effort to stand you up, or she truly didn't care...either case speaks VOLUMES about her feelings for you, regardless of what she says.
Don't try to get revenge, that's just going to make things worse. Just break it off now, minimize your losses, and move on.
You have to really work at it to actually make a date, not show up, AND not call the person to let them know you can't make it...you know?
Even if she's sorry...I wouldn't give her another chance. I'd still maybe talk to her, but why should you tolerate being disrespected by her?
I mean, personally, I wouldn't be giving her a whole lot of respect. Either she made a conscious effort to stand you up, or she truly didn't care...either case speaks VOLUMES about her feelings for you, regardless of what she says.
Don't try to get revenge, that's just going to make things worse. Just break it off now, minimize your losses, and move on.
I agree,
Just remember, you should always try and analize a lot of the things chick do. Pay attention to how they talk to you, their inflections in their voice, their physical actions around you. So why shouldn't you analize how they react on a date. And not showing up is the worst. This means two things, she doesn't care enough about you to show up, or she doesn't have the dignity to tell you, either way your screwed, so giving her another chance is pointless.
Just next her.
Just remember, you should always try and analize a lot of the things chick do. Pay attention to how they talk to you, their inflections in their voice, their physical actions around you. So why shouldn't you analize how they react on a date. And not showing up is the worst. This means two things, she doesn't care enough about you to show up, or she doesn't have the dignity to tell you, either way your screwed, so giving her another chance is pointless.
Just next her.
I'm still talking to her and if she wants to set up another date, it's her responsibility.