"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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stood up (sort of)

phillyb

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hi all, well just broke up with g/f...the last few weeks I have

been talking to this little hottie on the internet. She is 20, and I'm 28.
I asked her if she

would like to meet up for coffee sometime. at first she said, well i

dont know...i dont usually do that sort of thing with random guys

on the net. I said well, that's cool i dont blame ya, and changed

the subject. The next day she said that she changed her mind

and wanted to meet up. One week later i suggested we meet up

on a wed. (giving her 2 days notice)...she agrees etc etc. . So she

give me her number and says to call her that night. I do and she

sounds all rushed and stuff....we decide to meet somewhere, and

just as i'm on my way out the door she calls and asks if we can

do itsome other time. SURE NO PROB i say. Next day she calls and

says she is going to bed and can we meet up tommorow (sat). I

say thats cool........Question.....should i call her or let her call

me.....i dont want her to get the wrong idea of me you know, that

i put up with broken dates right off the bat.......


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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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pancakepalace

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hi

I think you should definitely let her call you. If you call you'll never know how she really feels and it makes you look too eager.

Let her call you, and when she does, tell her you have a pretty packed day but a few hours at a given time. This will make you look like you are busy and plus you won't have to worry how long the date should last.

Nothing worst than a first date that seems to last too long a time.

ciao,
pel
 

flexion_

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I'd back off and let her come to you at this point. She seems to have low interest level.
 
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