nismo-4
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You would also reschedule, I'm sure.Echoes said:
It did not happen here, proving my point even further.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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It did not happen here, proving my point even further.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I agree with Nismo.
Interested women do not flake... if there is a genuine reason she could not make the date she would have let you know and rescheduled.. which she did not and that is the end of the matter in my eyes.
Interested women do not flake... if there is a genuine reason she could not make the date she would have let you know and rescheduled.. which she did not and that is the end of the matter in my eyes.
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Went with the above approach. I figure it puts it on her to absolutely commit one way or the other. Basically my way of saying, "I'm walking away, so either don't respond, or fight to earn my time and respect." There's a nice closure in it.Don-Kong said:
I appreciate everyone's input, and I understand the ramifications of sending that text. But if she was a flake, it won't matter anyways.
Will follow up with results
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although that doesn't say 'I'm walking away'. That says, 'I'm still here. Thinking about you'.monterreymoosey5678 said:
Radio silence says 'I'm walking away'.
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sylvester the cat said:
**** good point.
Late edit: No response. Probably a lost cause, as many posters stated.
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
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Ball was definitely in her court, OP. She didn't deserve a response.
You need to spin more plates and cultivate an abundance mentality so that when you're next confronted by flakey bishes, you'll just be able to shrug it off.
I would only respond to her if she tells you she lapsed into a coma for four days. But even then, my sceptical brain would probably still ignore her.
Move onward and upward! And hopefully inward. But with women who greatly appreciate your time and effort.
You need to spin more plates and cultivate an abundance mentality so that when you're next confronted by flakey bishes, you'll just be able to shrug it off.
I would only respond to her if she tells you she lapsed into a coma for four days. But even then, my sceptical brain would probably still ignore her.
Move onward and upward! And hopefully inward. But with women who greatly appreciate your time and effort.