Stood up for the first time ever, no call, no text...

[Naughty Ninja]

there are too many variables in life to have a black and white line of "disrespect and i have to go all out" and "**** it i don't care". as stated the girl i first dated an adult stood me up what 2 times.. but she wasn't doing it to be disrestful she was doing it because she was torn between me and the guy she just got out of a 6 year relationship.

and the advice i gave you above, is the exact thing i told her.. look people do what they do, i'm not mad or upset you don't have to apologize, but i am going to give you one more shot, and if you dont' take advantage of it i am done.

there is no need to get cute, no need to come upw ith some super sweet text or anteing, just lay your cards out on the table. she is the one that ****ed up. either she wants to get to know you or she doesn't.

That's pretty much it. Dudes need to relax a bit with that Oh she's "blatantly disrespecting me!" I need to show her I don't tolerate that! nonsense. Some chicks will respond better when you don't respond and or if you do come off as if it's no big deal without actually saying it. Your actions and responses directly effect how she views you handling "flakey" or "rejecting" behavior. (If you make some chick you've met or are after the center of your world and your "plans" you'll most likely be disappointed. After all...who is she anyway?)

If a chick strings you along you just drop her and the whole thing period. If she comes around in the future? You shouldn't care as you have your own life like she should as well. That may even bring up her interest level as she wasn't as "in demand" to you as she thought she was.

It's like these chicks think if a dude reacts in a defensive or offensive manner to her flaking EVEN IF she's the one to blame "Oh this guy is EFFECTED by it." I'll either string him along or not bother anymore as he'll cause "problems" in my life.

With chicks like that you completely remain uneffected and act as if that crap she pulls never happened. (Get's their mind in WTF mode and why you aren't falling for their "test" and you may just see them slowly start chasing you.)

 

[cordoncordon]

I really hate to beat a dead horse, especially with you because you have solid game and give good advice, but OP, you're married with what, 2 kids?

Don't you think you have more important things to worry about than if this skank fawks with you or not? Just stop cheating or get divorced brah, for the sake of your kids.

 

[Greasy Pig]

OP, if you guys had organised to meet up, why would losing her phone prevent her from still turning up at the agreed place and time?
She knew the time and place, she still could've turned up and told you the phone story face to face. What a great conversation starter!
This was a stone cold flake. Treat her as such.

 

[marmel75]

I really hate to beat a dead horse, especially with you because you have solid game and give good advice, but OP, you're married with what, 2 kids?

Don't you think you have more important things to worry about than if this skank fawks with you or not? Just stop cheating or get divorced brah, for the sake of your kids.

Listen. I have my reasons for doing what I am doing. I work hard, my wife stays home. Its not 1950 anymore. Gas isn't 25 cents. A loaf of bread isn't 10 cents. I am tired of having the weight of the world on my shoulders financially. I have tried to start multiple conversations regarding her getting a job to help out, those conversations end up going nowhere or having the subject changed.

Divorce is not an option. That would be way too expensive. Like $900 a month expensive. If/when she gets a job I will llikely stop all of this. Until then she does what she wants, so I will do what I want. I know its two different levels of disrespect, but its disrespect all the same.

 

[marmel75]

OP, if you guys had organised to meet up, why would losing her phone prevent her from still turning up at the agreed place and time?
She knew the time and place, she still could've turned up and told you the phone story face to face. What a great conversation starter!
This was a stone cold flake. Treat her as such.

Oh I already know its BS, that isn't even the issue.

I messaged her what backbreaker said, just because I really don't give a fvck how it turns out and here is the convo from there:

Her: Uh oh Mr. Bossy I would have you come over but I have people at my house

Her: And what do u want me to cook?

Me: Surprise Me

No response, number deleted. Fvck her.

 

[backbreaker]

yeah she's a stroke job.