"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Stole a girl from someone who stole girl from me, revenge never felt so empty.

Adakkon

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This guy stole a girl I was in a 4 month relationship with. I admit I was majorly turning AFC and it was just a matter of time anyways.

Well, I came back to sosuave after that, it's amazing how much I had started slowly forgetting as I was becoming complacent.

Long story short, not only do I get the girl back within a month, but I get her to cheat on him with me first instead of just leaving him for me.

I thought looking into his eyes knowing I'd had sex with the girl he thought was his might repair the wound I'd been dealt, it didn't. Yesterday she broke it off with him and I remember the look on his face when she walked up and was talking to me in the halls. When it all came together for him and he realized why he'd just been dumped. The anger and pain in his eyes, I soaked up every bit of it, but I didn't feel any better.

In fact I felt pretty bad for him. This guy is really pathetic, if he wasn't such a total AFC I doubt I would have been able to steal her back so easily. He'd never even gotten past first base with this girl when I'd nearly had sex with her on the second date. (and she was a virgin then too, I know she wasn't lying because when we did do it there was blood and she didn't get her monthly visit until the next week)

For every guy out there, wounded egos aren't healed by revenge, and now that I've won the girl back I almost don't want her anymore.

If I'd learned to let go of my ego and oneitis I would probably already be in a relationship with a new girl by now and I wouldn't have spent so long with all this anger and revenge crap.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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shydude

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Well i fell bad for the guy that lost the girl! He will get you back though, trust me on this one, unless his a total AFC!!
 

wavejams007

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Revenge doesn't usually solve anything. It is a vicious cycle. IF he thinks you did it for revenge, he is probably gonna want to get back at you maybe.

Revenge most of the time is a sign of immaturity.

Get with a girl cuz you wanna be with her, not to get back at some guy. Remember, all is fair in love and war.
 

Patrick124

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now what IS fulfilling: getting with a girl jsut to get back at her friend :)
 

Fender

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Adakkon said:
If I'd learned to let go of my ego and oneitis I would probably already be in a relationship with a new girl by now and I wouldn't have spent so long with all this anger and revenge crap.
Not every guy is as insightful as you are on that.

At least you knew where you went wrong and be a better man next time round' eh?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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