"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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HolyG

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I'll get right to the point. So I'm in college right, and last night I was out partying. I opened lots of different girls, but sometimes things feel real akward. I introduce myself and ask about what school they're in. Sometimes I'll be at a loss from there, however. I realize that girls prefer talking about emotional stuff to logical stuff.

Any tips?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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tr0ublemaker

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17 in college? jesus christ i graduated HS when i was 18

anyway, ask about her major and career aspirations, and then build from that
 

Jay Jay

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Every guy asks about what school they are in. Boring!

Act like you have already met and go straight in with fun conversation.

Yes, chicks like emotional stuff... but stay away from negative emotions or at least have at least a 75% fun, exciting, sexual to 25% provocative balance.

JJ
 

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Jay Jay said:
Every guy asks about what school they are in. Boring!

Act like you have already met and go straight in with fun conversation.

Yes, chicks like emotional stuff... but stay away from negative emotions or at least have at least a 75% fun, exciting, sexual to 25% provocative balance.

JJ
Good reply.. to add

1. Keep it 100% positive. No girl wants a negative guy who's negative about his life.

2. Keep it original. You're going to need something better than "What's your major" to open up a conversation.

3. Make her laugh as much as possible, without being a comedian.

4. Vibe on her level.. take what she has to say and run with it.

5. Don't control the whole conversation, control where it goes. Women hate to control the direction of a conversation (this is where awkwardness comes from), that's a man's job. But, it's a little complicated - Women love to hear themselves talk! Bring up the new topics, let her talk, respond with original material till the topic gets old, then move it on to the next topic.
 

HolyG

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Heh, yup I'm 17. A freshman though.

Thanks for the replies-

HolyG
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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