"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Still to much of a ***** to approach?

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All of us here have one thing in common... and that is for some reason or another (chances are because of our upbringing, but this is irrelevant), we didn't develop social skills at a normal rate, for some of us (me included) we didnt develop them at all.

BUT, out of failure comes oppurtunity.

Think about the best ladies man you know. Now imagine being 20 TIMES more succesfull with chicks then him.... well i'm here to tell you that it is possible. I've experienced it myself. I have posted alot on here in the past, and i have seen some awesome transformations on this board. I've seen complete AFC's turn in to the ladies man of the school, i've heard of guys have their gf's cheat on them and then go on to date hotter girls only to have their ex come crawling back, and it is these kind of stories that make it all worth it.

What's even better is that it then transfers in to other facets of their life. You see it all the time, it starts out as a quest for ***** and ends up as a quest for life. Its a conduit to self improvement.

Problem is, i dont see enough of it. I would like to see a higher turnover % of AFC's to DJ's. Fact is, alot of you wont make it to become that ladies man you want, you will go back to a life of ignorance. Some of you will however, and i would love to here your successes. If you wanna talk to me in person - shoot me a pm, inspirational stories is what i want to hear.

So what is it that seperates the guys who go through with it from the keyboard jockeys?

From my experiences there are two main ones. 1. work ethic. 2. frame of mind.

Sure you can overcomplicate it with other factors but if you focus on those two areas and let the chips fall where they may - you will be amazed with yourself.

lets go in to more detail.

1. Work ethic.

There are ALOT of guys on here who have been on the site for years but still havent been laid? Why is this? All the information on here is field tested and worked we KNOW it works, but why can't they get their end wet?

To get good at seduction it requires alot of effort. You need to get blown out of the water time and time again. You need to **** up, the more you **** up the better you get. To many guys just wait for that 'perfect time' to approach, if only they knew that the perfect time was 30 minutes ago. The perfect time is as soon as you see her. Here's something important to remember, this applies to everything - not just girls:

By Waiting ...... YOU MISS OUT!!

Even if a girl is attracted to you she wont show it, she will do her best to conceal it (save the sluts) as she doesnt want to be labelled a slut. The ones that SHOW interest are what we like to call **** teases and ussually end you up in a state of false hope.

Your sitting now reading this.... because its easy. Most people can read. Its not difficult, it doesnt take you out of your comfort zone, you just sit there.. alone in the computer room. Everyone always says knowledge is power, but if that where case then libraries would be the nuclear power plants of the world. Knowledge put in to action is real power!

At the end of the day, when things get hard thats when most people start to make up exscuses! Its a universal law you get out what you put in... you reap what you sew.... whatever, These things apply and you have to understand them.

Can you all just do yourself a favour and stop restricting yourself. Theres noone stopping you except for you! you and your negative beliefs.. which brings me to:

2. Your frame of mind.

I made a post ago about attraction via assumption. Basically it says if you assume she is in to you - she will start to act that way. The more you do this, the better you get at it.. and the more pink stink you get. Simple. ASSUME SHE IS INTERESTED. I don't care if she says that if you ever talk to her again she will kill you family - just take it as 'shes playing hard to get'.

Chicks HATE these guys, but the funny things is - they only **** these guys. ASSUME SHES INTERESTED, When you go out ASSUME your gonna get laid ASSUME every girl is in to you.

Has anyone ever heard of the law of attraction? Basically it states that what you think in your mind will manifest here in reality. Your thoughts have electric pulses and release in to the universe.

If you stress about not having a gf you will continue not to have one until you 'get lucky'.

Have you noticed that when you get one girl you ussually seem to get 2 or 3 more then when you lose them you will go on a drought. Thats because you think you can get girls so you do. Its not a coincedence.

When you waste your energy worrying you just bring more and more of those circumstances in to your life. When you focus on the future you, you bring THAT in to your life. Start thinking about what your thinking and figure out where those thoughts are taking you.

I'm not the best writer, as alot of the guys who have been here a while would know - but if this inspires just one person to get off their ass and work at their problems then im happy.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Sad that nobody has given you prop's on this post.....this is my first post here at sosuave, but I think out of all the reading ive seen tonight this has inspired me a bit. Thank's!
 

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gotta say great post, truly worthy of your master dj status
 

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Words couldnt be more true. I said this in some post bout evron having a "vtec point". For some people it's getting ditched by thier oneitis for others it's just a random thought.

What rung true with me was the social skills development bit. I allways assumed I was a one of or something. Dumb as it is it's sorta re-assuring :)
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Sammo,

long time, no speak. Oh well.

Mad props to you on that one.

Favorite quote: "By Waiting ...... YOU MISS OUT!!"

I wish that I could show people how much this site has helped me out in life. i have posted previous successes in other posts, but I will sum up what my three greatest things that I have managed to succeed at.

1.) Going to an Ivy League University
2.) Getting gold medal in Nashville, TN for a project from the FCCLA
3.) Getting out of my old crash and burn depression mode
4.) Getting self-respect
5.) Getting a life.

Guess that is five but what the hell. there is my five things that I am most proud about.

comic_relief
 

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right on.

believe me the lazy people dont win
 

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Void said:
right on.

believe me the lazy people dont win
I kinda disagree with you. Not on the fact that lazy people don't win, but on the fact that all people who aren't good at approaching are lazy. That's not true, you could suck at approaching women, but be on a sports team, or do an activity. I suck at approaching women, but I still work my ass off at wrestling practice. It's more fear, than it is laziness.
 

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MrConfidence said:
I kinda disagree with you. Not on the fact that lazy people don't win, but on the fact that all people who aren't good at approaching are lazy. That's not true, you could suck at approaching women, but be on a sports team, or do an activity. I suck at approaching women, but I still work my ass off at wrestling practice. It's more fear, than it is laziness.
Get rid of the word fear, get rid of the word laziness. Instead think of the word willpower.

If you have willpower nothing can stop you, not laziness, not fear, nothing.
 
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