"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Its called parentify, answers the question why I felt like my ex's dad at times she even called me dad at times when I would lecture her, it felt really weird being her parent when I'm supposed to be her BF.

I don't go intentionally looking for this stuff it pops up in my suggested YT video feed because I have been searching about BPD in the past. So glad I never have to ever see her or deal with her ever again, more a guy learns the realization fvcked up a BPD is and the damage they can do to you. Watched a few more recent videos that were made last month to current, its good knowledge to have so a guy will not repeat the past.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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I dated girl diagnosed with BPD. She even told me but I didn’t know what it was. She was a nightmare. One night she started cutting herself when we were drinking and I started telling her like wtf. Then she stabbed me in the foot. I have a scar that reminds me of that psycho every time I take a shower lol. She monkey branched on me and I went completely nuts. Never gone crazy before. Not really sure what happened there. She still Hoover’s me.

Person with BPD projects all their bull**** on you. They start off idealizing you thinking that you’re perfect and not like everyone else who broke their trust. As soon as a little flaw appears the facade fades. Then you enter devaluation. Where they start accusing you and blah blah blah. It’s really a trust disorder I think. And they communicate in an odd fashion. Basically they accuse you, you deny, which to them, confirms they’re right. Then replace and discard. Goes something like that anyway.
 
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Hard to quit thinking about them cause they take up space in your mind. I managed to let mine go even though she was constantly hoovering me. Still does. Just told her off again tonight lol. She can go to hell hahahaha
 
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