"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Still honing skills: Should I ask out a woman even if I am not interested?

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I am still beginning as a DJ, and a few times I have had women come on to me, and I would be thinking to myself "Well this is a perfect setup to asking her out for coffee," and yet I don't because I don't feel that I am wasting her time if I don't think I am interested.

My question is - is it better to go for it just so the process becomes easier for me or is it against some ethic to waste her time?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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As you go on you will soon see that women will (or try) to waste lots and lots of your time. Go for the practice. It is good for your confidence and it is better to practice on someone you aren't interested in rather then the HB.
 
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Evo-Psych said:
As you go on you will soon see that women will (or try) to waste lots and lots of your time. Go for the practice. It is good for your confidence and it is better to practice on someone you aren't interested in rather then the HB.
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Yea it is practice for them to waste your time. That way if they bag a poor schmuck as a husband one day they are well prepared.

But the question is....

IF you meet Mrs. Right one day will you be prepared... Ha young Grasshopper?
 
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zerocelsius, I'm just not sure what you're trying to say. Are you saying I should or shouldn't "go for it"?
 
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You know that a girl is meant to be a addition to your life, a plus to your day, right?

So even though you might not be interested in this chick, but she seems cool enough, how about this, why not? You might have a amazing connection, find out she's got a great personality and end result, you could hook up.

All for 20 minutes and $4...what's the waste in that?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Francisco d'Anconia

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Just stick to approaching and working on your conversation skills with these women. No need to extend it to a date, it'll cause more trouble than its worth.
 
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I use to ask out any chick even if I was moderately interseted in her.


Don't. Sure, approach them and work your game. but mediocre attraction to her leads to mediocre dates cause you really don't care, and that just means you wasted time and probably money.

focus on the chicks you want, and practice on the chicks you don't.
 
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You ask a girl out because you want to spend time with her. So why would you invite her out if you're uninterested? Has she got a harem of beautiful girl friends?
 
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